connection between aspergers and asexuality?

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06 Mar 2009, 9:47 pm

I am definitely asexual and aspie and whilst I take meds even before I took them I had little or no sex drive or desire for a relationship (other than friendship). I have read the stats and it is 1% off general population and 17% aspies I feel there are a number of reasons for this one is that we tend to have hightened and lower senses in many areas and for some of us sex drive is one of them. Also our social skills and thinking is different. I am happy being asexual if my friends realtionships woes are anything to go by.



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06 Mar 2009, 9:51 pm

I would pretty much there is a correlation, yes.



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07 Mar 2009, 1:34 am

I can't feel the need to have sex much.... But having someone i could love and talk to sometimes would be nice... I am somewhat physicly attracted but that depends =/ I don't usually aim for very gorgeous people... They tend to overdo it anyway -.- The ones i like usually can keep simple and still be attractive ^^; .



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07 Mar 2009, 2:46 am

i went to a talk on Apsergers and relationships and sexuality today with tony attwood and isabelle henault.

the latest reaearch shows that AS people tend to have more of a fluid approach to sexuality and sex and that a small proportion of AS people are asexual. the research also shows that AS people tend to have more of a sexual fantasty life than NT people. (it may be a result of less actual experience, and so there is compensation by way of fantasising although this correllation is not proven - just a suggestion.)



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07 Mar 2009, 12:18 pm

I find the above post interesting. :o



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12 Mar 2009, 1:40 pm

capriwim wrote:
I've heard that asexuality is more common amongst people with Aspergers than amongst NTs, but I wonder if that is really the case, or whether Aspies are simply more honest about not having 'normal' feelings, whereas NTs like to pretend to be normal.


This is a distinct possibility. How many NTs who actually don't get that much out of sex still constantly look for it because their peer group pressure them to, or because society tells them they should want it all the time?

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I think alot of aspies claim to be asexual so they can hide behind it because they know they will never get laid.

Harsh opinion? Probably. But mostly true.


Maybe. But then, although I know I'll probably never manage to secure any kind of relationship, I still feel very romantically attracted to men and sometimes feel a little sad because I freely admit I'm unlikely to get together with anyone. I don't, however, feel unhappy that I won't have sex because I don't want it. When I imagine a relationship, I don't imagine sex as part of it.



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12 Mar 2009, 7:24 pm

I wouldn't know, but I consider myself to be a Hollowsexual, who has normal libido levels and is attracted to the opposite sex, but doesn't want to love or even be involved with others. I see it as a brother to Asexuality.

See my thread Hollowsexuality - My Story on Relationship



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01 Jun 2010, 5:15 am

it kills mine too and it is embarassing :(


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yeah I noticed that a lot of people here claim to be asexual to some extent. what I've been wondering about is how much that is the effect of antidepressants and other medication (I know SSRIs pretty much killed my libido when I was taking them).



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01 Jun 2010, 6:51 am

enlightenedshadow44 wrote:
it kills mine too and it is embarassing :(


anna-banana wrote:
yeah I noticed that a lot of people here claim to be asexual to some extent. what I've been wondering about is how much that is the effect of antidepressants and other medication (I know SSRIs pretty much killed my libido when I was taking them).


I've had the EXACT OPPOSITE problem with my libido. What happened with me is my mate is NT and was practically a nympho when we first met. For reasons I honestly have little explanation for, within a few short years, our sexual activity dwindled to only a few times, maybe once or twice, a week. At one point (for legit reasons) we stopped altogether. Things picked back up recently, though, but sex is still a rare thing. And what's truly cruel is that when she IS in the mood, it just so happens that I'm sick or not feeling well. The very next night, she's "too tired." So over time I've just started losing interest, although my libido is still really strong.

I've never taken meds for AS. Once, many, MANY years ago I was on Ritalin, which definitely was a mood-killer for me. I've never really considered taking meds, but it SSRIs counteract an overactive libido, it seems to me they would be helpful not just for my state of mind but also the severe depression brought on by lack of regular sex.



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01 Jun 2010, 8:04 am

I think the connection is that people with AS do not get sucked in by the pressure as easily as NTs. I think it sux that some people here can not accept asexuality. Lots of members on this site have problems with society not accepting em the way they are. Weather the people here who claim to be asexual are really asexual or not; they should be accepted for it instead of being told by other members here that they are not


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01 Jun 2010, 8:11 am

actually it's interesting for me.. maybe it's not a AS symptom, but I wanted people to show me about sex, I wanted people to invite me to parties and proms.. I just never was which made it stronger in college, etc, and the urge... I freely wanted to explore and know more about the phenomena



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01 Jun 2010, 11:21 am

Joshandspot wrote:
Just curious if anyone knows what the connection between the two is if there is any? and is there any?


I don't think it's linked to Asperger's IMO. I've seen it discussed here fairly often, but if you take any group of 35,854 people, there's bound to be a few with unusual tendencies like that.

I am certainly not asexual at all :lol:



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01 Jun 2010, 12:22 pm

I thought I was asexual during the weeks before I found out about Asperger's Syndrome. Now I know I'm definitely heterosexual. :D


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02 Jun 2010, 2:05 am

I've recently come to realize I must be demisexual.


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05 Jun 2010, 2:50 pm

I thought I was asexual before I knew I have Asperger. Now I think that my lack of social skills is the reason for my spinsterhood. Well, sometimes I think that maybe my social maturity is a bit retarded somehow (Pilar Martín Borreguero, a psychologist, said that Asperger is a "social disability"), and sometimes I think that it's only my lack of interest right now. My family and my friends think I'm weird and I'm begining to worry about it, and that makes me worry because I don't want to look for a bf desperately only because I think I need one ( you know, all this Disney movies I saw when I was child brainwashed my mind).



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05 Jun 2010, 8:06 pm

I want to point out that there is no set definition for Asexual. Some people think asexual means having no sex drive & having no romantic interest. My definition of asexual is someone who may or may not have a sex drive but they would prefer not to have sex if given a choice & they my be interested in relationships & may have sex because of pressure or being expected to cuz he/she has a partner.
I think that the opinions on the relationship between AS & asexuality could very depending on what each person thinks asexuality is


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