Theory on why nice guys may finish last...
Erm... the product has existed since 1937; at best they could have originated a usage of the term.
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This is where aspie long-term memory becomes an incredible hindrance... most NT's can't remember events as far back with the clarity that Aspies do, and since we also tend to run these memories through our active consciousness constantly, we tend to get hurt by the event, over and over again...
Actually since this is a theory, it does not mean is true. I'm a nice gentleman towards ladies which is showing respecting to them. Also patience and not rushing into things is one way to develop the friendship and maybe even a relationship with a lady.
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Couple of comments --
1. Not everyone who isn't a shy "nice guy" is a jerk, but you are correct that their thicker skin and their higher sample size (more girls asked out) leads to higher numbers of conquests. Any salesman will tell you that you get a lot of rejections before you get a single sale, and that numbers (with good technique) are what help you close deals. I think for most guys who can't get girls, not trying nearly often enough is the #1 problem.
2. You should never be so blunt to a woman to ask her to her face to have sex. This works with gay men (because all men tend to like sex and to be direct), but not with 99% of heterosexual women, and you will spoil any chances you might have with women who otherwise might eventually let you have sex with them. Play the game, take it slow, be polite, and get to your goal eventually with the right person. It's the tortoise and the hare -- the tortoise wins when it comes to women. Women appreciate patience and someone who wants more than just sex from them. This is where good sales technique comes in, and not ruining your sale, a la Chris Farley's speech in "Tommy Boy" -- "I killed my sale!"
Btw, be sure to check out my very long contribution in the "Nice Guys Finish Last" sticky thread from a couple of weeks ago, I laid out all my theories and experiences there. You can find it HERE
I have to be honest if I am attracted to them. I do not mind them asking or showing me they want sex because I want it to.
Couple of comments --
1. Not everyone who isn't a shy "nice guy" is a jerk, but you are correct that their thicker skin and their higher sample size (more girls asked out) leads to higher numbers of conquests. Any salesman will tell you that you get a lot of rejections before you get a single sale, and that numbers (with good technique) are what help you close deals. I think for most guys who can't get girls, not trying nearly often enough is the #1 problem.
2. You should never be so blunt to a woman to ask her to her face to have sex. This works with gay men (because all men tend to like sex and to be direct), but not with 99% of heterosexual women, and you will spoil any chances you might have with women who otherwise might eventually let you have sex with them. Play the game, take it slow, be polite, and get to your goal eventually with the right person. It's the tortoise and the hare -- the tortoise wins when it comes to women. Women appreciate patience and someone who wants more than just sex from them. This is where good sales technique comes in, and not ruining your sale, a la Chris Farley's speech in "Tommy Boy" -- "I killed my sale!"
Btw, be sure to check out my very long contribution in the "Nice Guys Finish Last" sticky thread from a couple of weeks ago, I laid out all my theories and experiences there. You can find it HERE
Don't tell me what to do. I don't have to be polite if I don't want to. If I want to have sex, I'll say it. I HATE IT when you little b*****s are like ooooooh don't offend the ladies! seriously f**k off.
Don't tell me what to do. I don't have to be polite if I don't want to. If I want to have sex, I'll say it. I HATE IT when you little b*****s are like ooooooh don't offend the ladies! seriously f**k off.
Ah! I think you've revealed the real reason for your lack of success with the ladies.
And ... you've also given a helpful illustration of what many would consider to be "not a nice guy"...
Don't tell me what to do. I don't have to be polite if I don't want to. If I want to have sex, I'll say it. I HATE IT when you little b*****s are like ooooooh don't offend the ladies! seriously f**k off.
Ah! I think you've revealed the real reason for your lack of success with the ladies.
And ... you've also given a helpful illustration of what many would consider to be "not a nice guy"...
I get laid every day of the week b***h Do you?
Don't tell me what to do. I don't have to be polite if I don't want to. If I want to have sex, I'll say it. I HATE IT when you little b*****s are like ooooooh don't offend the ladies! seriously f**k off.
Ah! I think you've revealed the real reason for your lack of success with the ladies.
And ... you've also given a helpful illustration of what many would consider to be "not a nice guy"...
Hows your family member with autism. You don't know what it's like to be autistic. why the hell are you here?
In my experience, the type of guys who say things like "nice guys always finish last" aren't usually the nice guy at all. I'm sure they believe they are.................but no. Looks like you've proved that quite efficiently
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I think that part of the reason that women go for a-holes is that they are terrified that they will get attached to the guy, then get hurt. Think about it: if a guy is a jerk, they know they can explore their 'physicality,' knowing that they will never have to wory about getting too attached, thus, not have to wory about being hurt. Also, there is the deniability factor.
Furthermore, in my experience, after a few weeks/months, girls start to get 'freaked out' to have met a guy who is nice, even though he doesn't have to be. I have had relationships not work out because of this, as I have thus pushed girls too far out of their comfort zones.
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let you have sex with them? to be allowed to have sex with a woman?
what about having a woman that WANTs to have sex with you. Passionate about you?
Why not go for the whole enchilada?
I certainly would't allow a man to have sex with me, I would wait until I wanted to.
my two cents,
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