Bullying's effects on AS males ability to initiate

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From what I've read, bullies can be divided into two general groups --

The kinds that are popular and use the bullying to further their power/influence, and the kinds that are bullied/abused at home or at school, and thus are just looking for someone to take their own anger and misery out on. The second kind tend to be a lot less popular, as they are generally unpleasant to everyone, as opposed to the first kind, who are usually socially competent, popular, and well liked except for when they exert their bullying (and usually only on select people or at select moments)

Apparently the "popular" bullies respond best to intervention and treatment, and are more likely to correct their behavior. These are people who actually care about their own lives, and got into bullying because no one enforced boundaries on them (because of their popularity and generally good reputation), or because they were slightly sociopathic. They also tend to come from pretty good homes, probably with good parents who let them get away with a lot and who boost their self esteem to overly high levels. The worst you will see from them is teazing, hazing, some vandalism or mild violence in most cases, or maybe at the worst, date rape/assault. You'll also see relational aggression, as they turn peers against their targets. You'll see this a lot with female bullies, especially.

The second type of bully is usually disliked and feared by most, and is near the bottom of the social heap. No one likes them, no one invites them to events, and they probably are depressed and hate life. Their world outlook is very negative, and they probably have been victims of child abuse or some other kind of abuse on a regular basis. Life to them is pain, and they seek to make this a reality for others as well. If they can make someone else have a bad day or feel pain, their pain doesn't feel as bad, and they feel empowered. For people like that, it's all about power, as they come from a home environment where they have none. These ones will turn into hardened criminals and do some of the most despicable acts.

These are the people you should fear the most, because unlike the first type of bully, they won't grow out of it, and they don't give too much of a sh** about their own lives. These are the types of people who will go to prison willingly for doing something stupid or mean, because after all, how much worse is it than what they grew up with? These are also the people you need to stop, to get the authorities on, to flush out of the system, to get legal intervention on, because these are the ones who will ruin the lives of other people.

That was pretty accurate.

Apparently the "popular" bullies respond best to intervention and treatment, and are more likely to correct their behavior. These are people who actually care about their own lives, and got into bullying because no one enforced boundaries on them (because of their popularity and generally good reputation), or because they were slightly sociopathic. They also tend to come from pretty good homes, probably with good parents who let them get away with a lot and who boost their self esteem to overly high levels. The worst you will see from them is teazing, hazing, some vandalism or mild violence in most cases, or maybe at the worst, date rape/assault. You'll also see relational aggression, as they turn peers against their targets. You'll see this a lot with female bullies, especially.

The second type of bully is usually disliked and feared by most, and is near the bottom of the social heap. No one likes them, no one invites them to events, and they probably are depressed and hate life. Their world outlook is very negative, and they probably have been victims of child abuse or some other kind of abuse on a regular basis. Life to them is pain, and they seek to make this a reality for others as well. If they can make someone else have a bad day or feel pain, their pain doesn't feel as bad, and they feel empowered. For people like that, it's all about power, as they come from a home environment where they have none. These ones will turn into hardened criminals and do some of the most despicable acts.

These are the people you should fear the most, because unlike the first type of bully, they won't grow out of it, and they don't give too much of a sh** about their own lives. These are the types of people who will go to prison willingly for doing something stupid or mean, because after all, how much worse is it than what they grew up with? These are also the people you need to stop, to get the authorities on, to flush out of the system, to get legal intervention on, because these are the ones who will ruin the lives of other people.

There was one kid who picked on me because if I wasn't around he would be the main target of the bullying. He did this to prevent himself from being bullied by trying to get everyone to bully me instead. This is a type of bully that you forgot to mention.