Looking for Love? Look First to Yourself!

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An interesting article from the folks at "Oprah.com" gives three suggestions on how to be more attractive to potential soul mates.

While the article is intended for women, the suggestions seems to make sense for both genders. Here's a quick summary:

1. Know Yourself. Explore your own nature. Write down your interests, dislikes, attractive qualities, and aspects of your "dark side." Employ the help of intelligent, yet critical, people who know you well.

2. Value Yourself. You deserve better than what you would otherwise settle for. Be picky. Set high standards and stick to them.

3. Engage Yourself. Be busy and you'll be interesting. Get involved in activities that are not what everybody else does. Stand out from the crowd.

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Last edited by Fnord on 17 Mar 2009, 11:14 am, edited 1 time in total.

Looks just like the instructions to operating any weapon.

Great. Now every time I give the advice I was sure I learned on my own, people will think I got it from Oprah.

How do we know that Oprah doesn't get her advice from you?

...
Geezis, YOU'RE RIGHT.

[goes to search for hidden cameras]

Oh, wait, this is probably just the work of the Upright Citizens Brigade.

Edit: This is a particularly apt time to link this right here.

you are real
you exist
you are sane
you’re alive
you are here
you are fine
you are you
because you’re real

Last edited by Orbyss on 17 Mar 2009, 2:49 pm, edited 1 time in total.

No, you are great for distributing the advice further and knowing that the advice wasn't invented by Oprah anyhow. In fact, taking everything you have posted (that I have read), you are one of the smartest women I've ever witnessed on any board. Take that!

Uhhh, I don't know how to take blatant praise?

Actually, really, I'm very pleased to see something that I feel is very sensible coming from Oprah. It is probably a bit more fitting for women, just gender-wise, but I think anyone can take it, especially these days. It's simple advice, but it's very hard to take when you're conditioned to something else.

No, me neither, but try the elimination method: Realize I'm not trying to hit on you (or anybody else for that matter). I didn't feel obliged to write it, and why would I lie to make you feel good? Know that I spent time and energy writing it, that, instead of spending it on anything "more worthwhile", I chose to use it to praise you - because I mean it and I think it's true.

Great, this thread is now being ruined by a flirter.

This is true. How can you love anyone else if you don't love yourself? I don't think you have to be cocky or anything. But you have to take care of yourself and feel good being in your own skin.

First of all, this thread did not open with a question but an advice. Secondly, how come you automatically see a compliment (and it's explanation) as flirting?

....and third of all, why I always love to mess around?

Oh, I appreciate your opinion. It's just that I get the feeling that, around here, people see me as 'full of myself' already. To fain compliments under those circumstances is adding fuel to a pretty uncomfortable fire. Also, yeah, you'll get called flirtatious, but I'm personally not worried about being hit on. There seems to be a lot of testosterone going around this place that gives is a competitive feel, you may have noticed.

I've liked your input so far, as well. I think you do very well considering English isn't your mother tongue.

orbs, just go:

GOSH thanx <3

Act like a girl for once!! ! >:I

Thank you! I tend to discover my grammatical/linguistical errors after I post. Sometimes even days after. But I've stopped going back to correct them, and if the errors are changing the meaning of the post, I usually supplement with a new one. Hmm, sometimes I even say stuff that I disagree with a few days later...

I didn't think you were worried about getting hit on, considering you already have a boyfriend. I just wanted you to know that that wasn't my intention in any case.

Yeah, I've noticed there is a lot of testosterone going on here, but learning to control it is part of what this board is about. Because deciphering social cues gets so confusing for a person on the autistic spectrum, our self esteem seems to generally be at a lower point than in neuro typical people. We need to learn (and teach each other) how to behave amongst other people and testosterone is a major ego factor that needs that kind of attention.

My testosterone level is getting to high to the extent that I am head-banging the wall.....