Friends trying to hook you up with their SO's friends

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While we're on the topic of my best friend's sister...(A relationship with a best friend's sibling?)

On a different topic, this same friend is trying to convince me to go out with his girlfriend's close friend. Thing is that I don't like her more than as a really good friend. She's attractive and pretty smart, but something about her just doesn't jump out at me. This friend of my best friend's girlfriend and I are still one of these days going to meet up for a casual lunch.

My mom told me about when my dad and her were living in NYC in the late 80's and they were trying to hook up my dad's best friend (who in fact I'm spending a bit of the day with the day with) and my mom's friend. Well, the two dated briefly and it did not work out, and my mom suspects that much of it has to do with the pressure from her and my dad. (Note: everyone mentioned here is straight, just to clarify.)

Any thoughts?

I'd welcome it. Any assistance to improve and widen my social circle would be a good thing.

Vanilla_Slice

What thoughts do you want? You appear to have forgotten to ask a question or something.

Here are my thoughts;

a) a lot of people round here probably don't have (m)any friends.
b) none of my friends are kind enough to try and set me up with attractive and smart women.

People dating within their pool of friends or friend of a friend is fine, just don't overdo it or you might regret it.

We had a situation where a group of girls was brought in as one of the girls was my friends girlfriend. We all became friends, and as you have it people started paring off and dating. Lo and behold as they started breaking up we found we could no longer hang out together and lost a lot of friends.

I'd welcome it as well per Vanilla... Also, a friend introducing me ot just about anybody gives me that little bit that I need to start things up. I just can't walk up to a woman that I don't know... i just can't...

I wish people would set me up. I started a post about wanting an arranged marriage cuz the only way a women would be willing to give me a chance was if she was pressured into it

I had a similar thread about this sort of thing before...

It'd be nice if friends tried to help in relationships, like try to set to me up, or point out who might be interested in me so I could talk to them. Even if it doesn't work out, the help is still appreciated.

Urgh I hate people trying to set me up. The guys aren't just guys i'd never date, but guys who are completely not what i'm attacted to in any way shape or form.

no no no no no just leave me alone! I like being a loner. If that ever changes I will find someone myself. Why people think single people *need* a partner is beyond me. I'd rather die never having had anyone than being stuck with someone i'm just not into.

Just because someone's a good friend doesn't mean they're good to everyone they date. It really depends on the individual situation, and the individuals involved. This isn't exactly something that can boil down into a simple rule.

*sigh* People used to try and 'hook' me up, but I always failed to impress, even when I had someone sitting on my knee and purring for attention.

I love it when people do it though; they must care for you if they are helping you so hard to find a lover.

To me all it is is pulling some random off the street and saying "be attracted to this person".

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stupid.