Love?

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It makes no sense to me why people love other people. As far as I can see there is no logic behind it. You ask people why and they can't give you any sensible explanation. They are also not able to say why they love the person in question or why they love that person and not somebody else. How therefore do they know they love them? As it makes absolutely no sense, why do they follow it?

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People love and care people for the same reasons I love and care animals. That's really how I explain it to myself.

Well, love is an emotional response that most people cannot completely define in rationality. To define love in purely rational terms would destroy the emontionality of it to some extent. People follow love because it gives them pleasure or avoids the pain of not following love, not because it is logical. Following whatever is pleasurable is a logical response. In the end people cannot tell if they are being loved or even if they are truly in love. Too much of it can be hormones and other influences. The only good test for love that I know of is time and perhaps struggle.

i think it is a word that was made up by Hallmark.

the truth is; your alright, you don't get on my nerves too much, and i guess i tolerate you very much!

perhaps it's just something we choose to do to fill in the time. like knitting.

Is this always true?

It seems to me that it's a combination of factors. There is a certain gut feeling to it -- you can't say exactly why you love someone any more than you can say why you prefer a particular shade of green. But you can point to qualities you like in a person -- reasons you enjoy spending time with them -- what it is about them that makes you feel worthwhile when you're with them. I would guess that for many people it's not so much that they can't tell you all these reasons why they love someone, so much as that it's private, it's not something they want to talk about with someone else.

And for your last question: it isn't entirely rational, but we follow it because it can lead to great happiness; that seems like a perfectly rational reason to me!

I think they have to have something about them to me which makes me love them, in someway anyone I've gone out with has had to be unique and be intelligent.

I don't want an easy relationship I want one that makes me think.

But love comes from within, you could say there is a rush of adrenilin when you see them or an overwhelming feeling of comfort when your cuddled up in their arms, as if you were safe and nothing could ever get you while you are in that persons arms.

I think that one should never believe love or trust it.

Why is that?

For me, isolation is happiness.

So why does that imply no-one should believe in love? For many people, isolation is hell.

It is not hard to understand.

I don't understand people, so they scare me. Therefor I isolate myself.

I beg to differ, that people can't explain why they feel a certain way. I can totally qualify (if not properly quantify) how I feel about my my boyfriend. I don't want to gush (or embarass myself or him), but I actually CAN, to a pretty sane-sounding extent. BELIEVE me, I worry about being irrational, too, so I've gone through it in my head a couple times. ((Don't get me wrong, I'm a complete lunatic, but this is one of the rare things I actually have some logic to. ))

I've had one short and stupid internet relationship and when "she" (in reality probably a teen boy out to redicule me) started to say that she had nothing against me being a bit large, my thought wasn't "great, I'm going to get a girlfriend", but "YES!! ! I'm going to get laid with some stupid chick!" My own thoughts freak me out. I only want to isolate myself, I feal sick, like some serial killer...