What's Wrong With These 2 People

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Jeff is in college. Jeff is an aspie he is 24 and he is very smart. He is studying for a great career. Jeff is extremely handsome and has many great attributes. Jeff is quiet, shy, timid, nice, and doesnt like to socialize much. He doesnt have many friends and he doesnt go to any parties. Jeff has stuffed animals and is very eccentric, but he is very handsome.

Julie is in college she is an aspie and is 24 and studying for a great career. She is very smart and extremely beautiful and has many great attributes. Julie is shy, timid, nice, and quiet. Julie doesnt like to socialize much either. She doesnt have very many friends and doesnt like to go to parties. She has stuffed animals and is very eccentric, but she is very pretty.

What's wrong with these 2 people and what is good about these 2 people?
These two people basically suck at socializing, but which one has the upperhand in dating, what is the upperhand that the person has who has it, and why is it the upperhand?

then ask yourselves why did you pick the answers you picked.


New Scenario:

Jeff is outgoing, an aspie, and has the same attributes and he is handsome.

Julie is exactly the same and outgoing and has the same attributes and she is pretty.

Which person has the upperhand in dating?

Neither does. If you don't meet people, you haven't much chance of dating them.

I'm guessing this is another 'Girls have it easier than guys' thread...

I agree with Lene. No matter what u are fem or male it is difficult enough, u either way freak people anyway, plus what Lene said if u don't meet people... how can u ever date? and even so if u dont have the ability to open up or open up in a "right" way then u get rejected.

The challenges girls face when dating are different than those boys face. It is the nature of the species.

The trouble is that, as a male (or female), you may more easily understand the issues faced by those of the same gender. Contributing to this is the fact that AS might make you discount or be unable to see the issues faced by the other gender.

In both scenarios, there is insufficient basis for true comparison.

The woman is obviously going to be asked more than the guy no matter what the situation.
Given there is a good ratio of men to women.

thought this was a "real" topic.. who cares which hypothetical person has more of a chance? meh sorry

Of course the end result is 'girls have it better than guys' but does that have to do with any differentiation between having Aspergers' and being neurotypical? No. It's the society we live in that screws us over. Of course there are going to be issues when society expects the guy to ask the girl out while simultaneously it's the girl who has complete and total control over who can be in a relationship with whom. No wonder it's a game.

In the long term, though, we can't compare the two hypothetical persons - because though the girl may have more romantic interactions, who says they have any meaning? The guy could have only one such interaction and it could work perfectly.

yea o well we know how society is and we know the answer. Forget this stupid thread lol.