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25 May 2009, 8:01 am
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25 May 2009, 12:52 pm
Docmartin wrote:
Hi all
I am 32 years old and never had a girlfriend. Call me Morrissey junior or Doc Martin for that matter. I am not a virgin but I'll keep the reasons there secret. I rarely tell anyone this nowadays as I will get the 'Why not?' reaction. Believe it or not I have only asked women out three times and of course got turned down. Usually I am too self conscious and embarrassed about approaching women say in a pub or club. Usually I find that my heart is not in it when I tell myself I should approach someone or when I intend to chat to someone. To ask someone out is heavy heavy labour for me. I am sure when I ask someone out or start talking to a women they would sense my unease and be easily put off by it. The last 2 psychiatrists I saw did not seem to understand this and even denied that I was AS. My child shrink obviously did but I have changed since then. I understand that in our beloved society, the man is expected to ask the woman out. But for Aspie men, that is a difficult challenge as we all know. There is the advice "Just wait and somebody will come" but of course that don't happen. You certainly don't meet women sitting at home. I have done the Online dating thing but that was horrible. A couple of women thought I was ok online but when they met me face to face they were very put off. I have put ads in the 'Drum Media' but was not impressed by the women I met. The other obvious advice is to get involved in social/hobbies/interest activities of some sort eg attend an art class but you don't just do that to pick up women. It does not work. Seems like I have exhausted all activities, don't it? Hehe. Seems like we are all fighting a war we can't win here. What can you do? Seems like I would have to become a different person altogether. Pulp and sift out my entire personality and replace it with a new one. Change my brain. Hehe. Just kidding.
Now I don't want to limit myself here but I would like to meet Aspie women who live on the East Coast of Australia (NSW, VIC and QLD) as I live in Sydney. Even friendship is fine but dating is preferred. I feel Aspie women would probably be more sympathetic than the conventional types (I could be wrong). I was wondering if there would be any Australian Aspie women here on this forum? "Break out you aspie girls. Pretty soon your gonna change the world". This is my rewrite of a lyric from a Dragon song.
Alex
I am 32 years old and never had a girlfriend. Call me Morrissey junior or Doc Martin for that matter. I am not a virgin but I'll keep the reasons there secret. I rarely tell anyone this nowadays as I will get the 'Why not?' reaction. Believe it or not I have only asked women out three times and of course got turned down. Usually I am too self conscious and embarrassed about approaching women say in a pub or club. Usually I find that my heart is not in it when I tell myself I should approach someone or when I intend to chat to someone. To ask someone out is heavy heavy labour for me. I am sure when I ask someone out or start talking to a women they would sense my unease and be easily put off by it. The last 2 psychiatrists I saw did not seem to understand this and even denied that I was AS. My child shrink obviously did but I have changed since then. I understand that in our beloved society, the man is expected to ask the woman out. But for Aspie men, that is a difficult challenge as we all know. There is the advice "Just wait and somebody will come" but of course that don't happen. You certainly don't meet women sitting at home. I have done the Online dating thing but that was horrible. A couple of women thought I was ok online but when they met me face to face they were very put off. I have put ads in the 'Drum Media' but was not impressed by the women I met. The other obvious advice is to get involved in social/hobbies/interest activities of some sort eg attend an art class but you don't just do that to pick up women. It does not work. Seems like I have exhausted all activities, don't it? Hehe. Seems like we are all fighting a war we can't win here. What can you do? Seems like I would have to become a different person altogether. Pulp and sift out my entire personality and replace it with a new one. Change my brain. Hehe. Just kidding.
Now I don't want to limit myself here but I would like to meet Aspie women who live on the East Coast of Australia (NSW, VIC and QLD) as I live in Sydney. Even friendship is fine but dating is preferred. I feel Aspie women would probably be more sympathetic than the conventional types (I could be wrong). I was wondering if there would be any Australian Aspie women here on this forum? "Break out you aspie girls. Pretty soon your gonna change the world". This is my rewrite of a lyric from a Dragon song.
Alex
hey Alex. people tell me the same thing and I'm 17. In grade school they told me in high school things would be better. and now in high school they are no differnt and actually worse. they tell me in college things will be better, but im having trouble believing it.
Don't limit yourself to aspie women.
There's only one thing to do....Do what society expects you to do, no matter how fake you feel your impression is. You ahve to act like what soceity wants you to be.
It f*****g sucks
If autism was an EXTREME FEMALE DISORDER women would still have an advantage, just bacause they are women, and we would look like little wusses.
I've learned that you have to be yourself around women, but not your full self, because i've heard that they may not want to see the full you yet.
YUCK, now im starting to sound like one of theose b***h ass gurus
But no matter how women act, they will always have an advantage at dating. men have to act one certain way.
Quit listening to people who say. Love will come your way and all that stuff. its a lie. if it does what are the odds of an aspie guy even knowing the girl is interested.
the only girls that were interested in me a lot , were girls i had no interest in. and i wont go with a girl im not interested in because i wouldnt be able to love her the way i can love a girl that im crazy about. If i go with a girl that i have no interest in, I'll probably start going to strip clubs and having affairs. If im with a woman that drives me nuts, then ill be coming home evryday to her, or treating her right.
But society wants you to purposely make yourself feel not interested in a girl you are completely interested in.
So say there's a fat, ugly, 6 feet tall girl, but her personality is beatiful. Dont BS me alex, you arent going to go with her because she is UGLY. Men are not psychologically equipped to go for personality, God made us to seek out women with beauty. Whats easier, pleasuring yourself to the pretty girl with the terrible personality, or the ugly girl with the nice personality?
Its going to be hard LOL well not hard, to have sex with the fat ugly girl when you cant find her attractive. then you'll be out doing things you arent suppose to like messing with prostitutes who are beautiful.
Men-want sex and only sex with beautiful women, since they are 3 years old
Women-Who knows what they want, but they arent thinking about sex all the time like men.
Sometimes women like cute guys, then they like jerks, then they like personality, they they like money, then they like sex. You never know with them. but for us we want sex with cute girl and thats all we want. and then if the woman is good, she can emotionally attach us to her. But its impossible to fall in love at first sight with a woman who is not beautiful to us.
But men can fall in love with an ugly girl, they just have to try harder than pretty ones.
Aspie men are like the ugly girls, we have to try twice as hard to get what we find attractive in the opposite sex.
25 May 2009, 12:58 pm
jemir1234 wrote:
Docmartin wrote:
Hi all
I am 32 years old and never had a girlfriend. Call me Morrissey junior or Doc Martin for that matter. I am not a virgin but I'll keep the reasons there secret. I rarely tell anyone this nowadays as I will get the 'Why not?' reaction. Believe it or not I have only asked women out three times and of course got turned down. Usually I am too self conscious and embarrassed about approaching women say in a pub or club. Usually I find that my heart is not in it when I tell myself I should approach someone or when I intend to chat to someone. To ask someone out is heavy heavy labour for me. I am sure when I ask someone out or start talking to a women they would sense my unease and be easily put off by it. The last 2 psychiatrists I saw did not seem to understand this and even denied that I was AS. My child shrink obviously did but I have changed since then. I understand that in our beloved society, the man is expected to ask the woman out. But for Aspie men, that is a difficult challenge as we all know. There is the advice "Just wait and somebody will come" but of course that don't happen. You certainly don't meet women sitting at home. I have done the Online dating thing but that was horrible. A couple of women thought I was ok online but when they met me face to face they were very put off. I have put ads in the 'Drum Media' but was not impressed by the women I met. The other obvious advice is to get involved in social/hobbies/interest activities of some sort eg attend an art class but you don't just do that to pick up women. It does not work. Seems like I have exhausted all activities, don't it? Hehe. Seems like we are all fighting a war we can't win here. What can you do? Seems like I would have to become a different person altogether. Pulp and sift out my entire personality and replace it with a new one. Change my brain. Hehe. Just kidding.
Now I don't want to limit myself here but I would like to meet Aspie women who live on the East Coast of Australia (NSW, VIC and QLD) as I live in Sydney. Even friendship is fine but dating is preferred. I feel Aspie women would probably be more sympathetic than the conventional types (I could be wrong). I was wondering if there would be any Australian Aspie women here on this forum? "Break out you aspie girls. Pretty soon your gonna change the world". This is my rewrite of a lyric from a Dragon song.
Alex
I am 32 years old and never had a girlfriend. Call me Morrissey junior or Doc Martin for that matter. I am not a virgin but I'll keep the reasons there secret. I rarely tell anyone this nowadays as I will get the 'Why not?' reaction. Believe it or not I have only asked women out three times and of course got turned down. Usually I am too self conscious and embarrassed about approaching women say in a pub or club. Usually I find that my heart is not in it when I tell myself I should approach someone or when I intend to chat to someone. To ask someone out is heavy heavy labour for me. I am sure when I ask someone out or start talking to a women they would sense my unease and be easily put off by it. The last 2 psychiatrists I saw did not seem to understand this and even denied that I was AS. My child shrink obviously did but I have changed since then. I understand that in our beloved society, the man is expected to ask the woman out. But for Aspie men, that is a difficult challenge as we all know. There is the advice "Just wait and somebody will come" but of course that don't happen. You certainly don't meet women sitting at home. I have done the Online dating thing but that was horrible. A couple of women thought I was ok online but when they met me face to face they were very put off. I have put ads in the 'Drum Media' but was not impressed by the women I met. The other obvious advice is to get involved in social/hobbies/interest activities of some sort eg attend an art class but you don't just do that to pick up women. It does not work. Seems like I have exhausted all activities, don't it? Hehe. Seems like we are all fighting a war we can't win here. What can you do? Seems like I would have to become a different person altogether. Pulp and sift out my entire personality and replace it with a new one. Change my brain. Hehe. Just kidding.
Now I don't want to limit myself here but I would like to meet Aspie women who live on the East Coast of Australia (NSW, VIC and QLD) as I live in Sydney. Even friendship is fine but dating is preferred. I feel Aspie women would probably be more sympathetic than the conventional types (I could be wrong). I was wondering if there would be any Australian Aspie women here on this forum? "Break out you aspie girls. Pretty soon your gonna change the world". This is my rewrite of a lyric from a Dragon song.
Alex
hey Alex. people tell me the same thing and I'm 17. In grade school they told me in high school things would be better. and now in high school they are no differnt and actually worse. they tell me in college things will be better, but im having trouble believing it.
Don't limit yourself to aspie women.
There's only one thing to do....Do what society expects you to do, no matter how fake you feel your impression is. You ahve to act like what soceity wants you to be.
It f***ing sucks
If autism was an EXTREME FEMALE DISORDER women would still have an advantage, just bacause they are women, and we would look like little wusses.
I've learned that you have to be yourself around women, but not your full self, because i've heard that they may not want to see the full you yet.
YUCK, now im starting to sound like one of theose b***h ass gurus
But no matter how women act, they will always have an advantage at dating. men have to act one certain way.
Quit listening to people who say. Love will come your way and all that stuff. its a lie. if it does what are the odds of an aspie guy even knowing the girl is interested.
the only girls that were interested in me a lot , were girls i had no interest in. and i wont go with a girl im not interested in because i wouldnt be able to love her the way i can love a girl that im crazy about. If i go with a girl that i have no interest in, I'll probably start going to strip clubs and having affairs. If im with a woman that drives me nuts, then ill be coming home evryday to her, or treating her right.
But society wants you to purposely make yourself feel not interested in a girl you are completely interested in.
So say there's a fat, ugly, 6 feet tall girl, but her personality is beatiful. Dont BS me alex, you arent going to go with her because she is UGLY. Men are not psychologically equipped to go for personality, God made us to seek out women with beauty. Whats easier, pleasuring yourself to the pretty girl with the terrible personality, or the ugly girl with the nice personality?
Its going to be hard LOL well not hard, to have sex with the fat ugly girl when you cant find her attractive. then you'll be out doing things you arent suppose to like messing with prostitutes who are beautiful.
Men-want sex and only sex with beautiful women, since they are 3 years old
Women-Who knows what they want, but they arent thinking about sex all the time like men.
Sometimes women like cute guys, then they like jerks, then they like personality, they they like money, then they like sex. You never know with them. but for us we want sex with cute girl and thats all we want. and then if the woman is good, she can emotionally attach us to her. But its impossible to fall in love at first sight with a woman who is not beautiful to us.
But men can fall in love with an ugly girl, they just have to try harder than pretty ones.
Aspie men are like the ugly girls, we have to try twice as hard to get what we find attractive in the opposite sex.
all im saying is that society is not going to change for aspie men, ugky women, and so forth. So im just saying we have to act they way we want them to act.
Why do you see overweight women always trying to lose weight. overweight guys do the same thing lol. But for aspie gusy its not that easy, we cant take away our asperger's, so i guess we just have to act the way society wants us to, or not at all.
25 May 2009, 2:33 pm
That whole situation makes me sometimes wish I could really just become a pimp.
25 May 2009, 6:37 pm
25 May 2009, 7:56 pm
