Is it a "norm" for youth to go partying, drinking etc?

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07 Nov 2024, 10:30 am

I seem to will people become regretful if they didn't spend a portion of their lives having the odd parties and drinking, one night stands and so on. The thing is like to be social as much as the next person but I never found the club scene on a weekend interested me. I went to one once but spent the rest of the time outside because I didn't like the flashing lights. I also went on a pub crawl which became boring after a while because we just stood around a public park talking for ages. I really genuinely feel like I miss not having a larger social circle of people like the ones I see posted on social media. It leaves me with the impression that you are "missing out on life" or "wasting your life" by not having that social circle.



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07 Nov 2024, 6:11 pm

Depends where you are, actually.

If I were in a more modernized city with more liberated views or in a way more socially emphasized places, where people would be trying to look cool by practicing pseudo-maturity behaviors via peer pressure or where drinking after is something to be the norm to wind down and hang around afterwards, yeah.
Usually in places where one claims high school should be the best years of someone's life and college years for phases of sexual experimentation -- yes.

Elsewhere, not really.
Those are places where years of high school and college are more focused in academics and educational achievements than social experimentation, that socialization is something pragmatic to networking than partying, or in more conservative social norms where said partying is supervised and drinking restricted or discouraged.
Unless one is trying to be socially rebellious by trying to mimic the above or has an underlying problem to start partying to numb themselves by such a 'young age'.


But it's not black and white.
Most of which are really depends where you're exposed to and ended up being convinced that it's something you have to do.


And I say the things you're exposed to and are convinced over are not compatible with you.


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07 Nov 2024, 6:22 pm

I never cared for it and I don't care if it's "normal" in our society or not. Although it is exhausting seeing it glorified everywhere I turn.



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07 Nov 2024, 6:25 pm

It's 'normal'.  So is living a quiet, sober lifestyle.


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07 Nov 2024, 7:24 pm

Fnord wrote:
It's 'normal'.  So is living a quiet, sober lifestyle.


I find some social groups either is considered normal and the other thing is frowned upon.



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08 Nov 2024, 6:18 am

chris1989 wrote:
I seem to will people become regretful if they didn't spend a portion of their lives having the odd parties and drinking, one night stands and so on. The thing is like to be social as much as the next person but I never found the club scene on a weekend interested me. I went to one once but spent the rest of the time outside because I didn't like the flashing lights. I also went on a pub crawl which became boring after a while because we just stood around a public park talking for ages. I really genuinely feel like I miss not having a larger social circle of people like the ones I see posted on social media. It leaves me with the impression that you are "missing out on life" or "wasting your life" by not having that social circle.


Reminds me at 25 living in the big city for the first time. I decided I should take advantage of big city life and go out and experience the gay nightlife and maybe meet someone. I put on my hottest clothes and drove to a nearby gay bar and parked.

It was noisy and crowded. I am talking about the parking lot. I sat in my car, remembering all the times I had been in a bar late at night before. The loud noise, the strangers everywhere, the high-priced drinks, the cigarette smoke, and feeling tired and exhausted late at night. Somehow I could not muster the enthusiasm to get out and go into the building. After about 30 minutes, I went back home and went to bed.

I never went back to another bar. I feel the same way about straight bars incidentally. Or parties in general. Any type of gathering, actually.


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08 Nov 2024, 2:40 pm

lostonearth35 wrote:
I never cared for it and I don't care if it's "normal" in our society or not. Although it is exhausting seeing it glorified everywhere I turn.

Yep, there's degrees here, but there's also a certain amount that depends on what the norm really is. Somethings are normal because there's a good reason for it, but sometimes it's just normal because it's normal.