For those with few or no friends

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^ Exactly. I will not go anywhere by myself, yet sitting at home all day, every day makes me feel like such a waste.

I recognize many, many people in my course. Even the ones who I talk to more often, I think there are too many, like casual friends or good acquaintances.

I feel that there are too many people to talk to, and I know that I have a poor ability to maintain close friendships with people (from experience), so I don't put in that effort to hang around the same group of people each day coz I know at the end, they're all gonna drift apart and it'll get kinda awkward. I just talk to whichever casual friend/good acquaintance that I bump into at Uni. A lot less commitment.

I have 0 close friends that I talk to on a daily basis, and the few close friends that I still have, I only speak to once every 2 weeks or so on msn as they are in different courses.

I feel a bit guilty that I'm letting other people down, but then I think "Would they feel the same towards me?" I shouldn't have to be obligated to speak to people that much if I don't totally enjoy their company.

I now have more time to go on the internet to look up things that I want, and to learn my personal interests.

Therefore there is a compromise between having close friends/good social life and focusing on improving yourself in the skills that you desire to be good it. I know it's possible to have both, but I find it too difficult so I have pretty much given up on the social life bit.

I'm tired of being reminded of my difference, not that people necessarily go out of their way to make me feel different, but I feel it. I'm a semi recluse for my own protection too. The problems with it are it can be unstimulating and you don't have any help when you need it. On a good day it's great though.

I used to get stuck home not knowing what to do out by myself. Then I got stuck home for a year not being able to drive. So then after that ordeal I would go anywhere just to get away from my place. But it's lonely in public places. I just sit there amongst so many people and their relationships going on before me. It seems the fact that I'm alone and I have no friends is a strike against me when trying to meet people. I don't even know what having a social life feels like. Now I'm passed the age where people socialize much because they are married for the most part. I don't like watching movies so much and I get bored of doing my interests because I think about the other social needs that are not being met and it sucks the enjoyment from them. If I spend many consecutive hours at a function or with one person for extended periods I get this feeling that I'm tired of myself. Like this expressive part of myself is unfamiliar to me and I'm not sure I want it around so much. Most times I get tired of this about me before I want to get away from others.

I personally am quite happy with the decrease in social interaction and pressure associated with being AS. It allows me to do my thing and sit back and observe people and analyze. When it comes to things like close friends and girls I try to be as outgoing and fun as I can be and in relationships with girlfriends I am usually very playful and relaxed. My level of comfort with people is ultimately based on how much I trust the person in question and only when I fully trust them can I let my true self show. If I don't trust the person at all or don't know anything about them I rarely know what to say or how to act and usually come across as very awkward.

I probably misunderstood the poll question. I don't have any friends apart from my boyfriend, but I do interact socially quite a bit, because my current place is a group setting. I in fact have a little too much interaction, but I would like to hav emore friends. I did at one point, when I lived alone, go to an activity (not job, I can't work) just for hte social interaction.

School is out, and two kids said they wanted to see me over the summer. I haven't heard from anyone in a few weeks now. It's driving me crazy. I get worried that they'll forget me. I don't have anyone else, I can't afford to lose them.

This is something that varies for me depending on circumstances. Most of the time I prefer my own company and I'm quite happy that way. Then I go through periods when I feel lonely and isolated and I wish I had someone to talk to. This tends to happen when I'm bored or when I'm feeling vulnerable.

My issue is:

Because I'm Catholic and politically liberal, many people avoid me because of my religion and political beliefs. Yet fellow Catholics avoid me because of my interests (Writing, theater, movies, etc). How ironic.

And there are virtually no Catholics in Portland who vote Democrat
who like the things I like. There was one girl who graduated from my high school
with me who fit both characteristics, who was nice,
but stalked me at college.

So I may have to choose between giving up
my interests or becoming a conservative.

Man, I am not happy with the lack of social interaction in my life. Whenever I meet someone for the first time and get to know them in college and dance lessons, I exchange email addresses and cellphone numbers after the end and contact them. However, they never respond to or intend to see me. When you are unsuccessful in this step, you have the UNLIKELY to make and maintain friends.

I don't care for friends. But It seems that everyone around me is forcing me to meet new people. They just don't understand that it's hard for me to do so.

Having no friends is driving me crazy. I don't have one person that I can chill with or talk too right now. I'm stuck at home doing nothing all day. It seems like everybody is outside living their life enjoying the experience with their friends. But me not being able to conversate makes it extremely difficult to find any. I am not happy with it at all. I can't spend everyday like this because it only drags me deeper into depression and anxiety.

I have friends, but I don't see them all that much right now. And I actually quite like it this way. Before I ever had any friends, at age 9 or so, I wanted friends really bad. At age 12, I got them, and kept them, and they were hard work to be honest. I have fun when making jokes with them, and they had a good sense of humour, but in the end, I really prefer being on my own. Being around them a lot mentally exhausts me, but when I'm not around them, I don't really miss them.

Same thing with relationships. Before I ever had one, there wasn't a single thing in the world I wanted more. I've had two now, and came to the conclusion that I'm better off without. Relationships take a shedload of time and effort, and it simply does not weigh up against the "benefits".

The only way I can ever imagine myself having some sort of friendship or relationship in, is when not much is expected from me. Phonecalls, questions, invitations, they drive me mad. Once every two weeks is more than enough.

I am very very unhappy about it and feel like if I don't try to straighten my life out soon enough I will just keep getting worse and might start getting suicidal thoughts again. Every night is the same, every day is the same, the days just keep passing by and it feels very much a waste.

I haven't had real friends for... going on about 12 years now. Since then it's been random acquaintances at work or college. No people that I saw outside of these contexts. No friends.
I think I've forgotten what it's like to have friends, and I've really begun to stop caring about it. I've become increasingly comfortable with not having friends and being alone. This is the most familiar place that I've ever known. Pretty much the whole second half of my life thus-far, I've been alone. I realize the need for others and the benefit of having a circle of friends, but I just can't seem to muster the desire and drive for it. I have so much work yet to do on myself. Attempts at friendship would only set me back right now.

It mostly bothers me when I'm confronted with it.. Like at school for example and we have to do some sort of group project.
Most of the time no one wants to work with me and I have to do everything by myself.
I only have one real friend all the others don't mean so much to me since I can't trust them.