elderwanda wrote:
Willard wrote:
I'm siding with Miyah on this one. If I wore a borrowed tie and someone called me on it, I wouldn't even be phased, much less get in a snit and bite someone's head off over it. Yes, I know NT women have different standards about such things, but that's their own problem for being so vain and superficial. There's no crime in attempting to make conversation and committing a fau pas - and at a gathering that's devoted to people with ASDs, for gods' sakes, one should expect to be bluntly called out on something like that. It should be taken with a good natured shrug, a gracious chuckle and a deft subject change, not cruel snobbery.
Personally, I love watching the shallow and self-righteous squirm uncomfortably in situations like that. I'd have gotten a big kick out of the whole thing. F 'em.
This is pretty much what I think. It sounds like Miyah was just making an observation. Sometimes it's hard to know what is going to upset people. I have seen characters on TV shows get all uppity if another woman once wore the same dress, but only the most superficial, bitchy characters. I wouldn't expect someone in real life to get all bent out of shape. I guess you never know. The dress comment could have been the start of an enjoyable conversation, if that woman hadn't been so hoity-toity.
I was actually quite disappointed with this woman for her behavior that evening because she works for an organization for people with ASD. I sent her an e-mail saying that I was first of all sorry and I meant what she said as a compliment. I then said that for someone who seems to be around people with autism all her life, she sure acted as if she had never been around someone with Asperger's Syndrome before and that I was a both hurt and disappointed in her.
I also listened very carefully to her speech that she made, only to find that the whole thing was about her putting the event together and thanked her family and then some top Dr. I never once noticed her mention anything about a big thank you for the people who work at the Autism Center at all. I had to say that listening to her and seeing the light made me cry because I thought she was nicer than that.
31 Mar 2010, 4:53 pm
