Ever feel like a person doesn't like you?

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For the most part, people don't like me generally. I don't know what makes me unlikable, and it takes long to get past that barrier. I have gotten that I'm too serious, too blunt, rude, too quiet. I don't know what it is that people want.

One comment I often get (the most recent one was this morning, in fact): 'I was talking to RavenShark today, he's quiet and serious looking but a really nice guy!', as if surprised and expecting that I wasn't.

However, most people don't make it past that stage with me.

I can tell that people don't like me because they seem to keep brushing me off or avoiding me such as that person being polite and then going off into another room. Another sign is that they always refuse to join a group I am in.
Others
1. Making an excuse
2. They say hi in a very cold and phony tone.

People usually like me. I think it’s because I most often keep my opinions to myself.

There are some people who really, really like me.

Others really, really dislike me.

One person might hate my guts.

I usually try to make people that I’m around comfortable. With living in such a conservative area, it means that I need to listen and appreciate someone’s perspective even though it’s completely different from my own. People tend to confide in me frequently.

I didn’t realize that I had this skill until well into adulthood. I wish I would’ve went to school to be a counselor.

Keep in mind that the ones who don't like us are the ones who don't like themselves because they feel uncomfortable with who they are. So they do what they can to fit the mold but when they see us coming along it scares them because maybe they wish they could somehow fit outside too.

I've discovered one odd reason why some who dislike me dislike me. I hate to say it but it seems that society expects girls and women to not be more than average intellectually, or if they are, not to show it. When these social expectations are not met, particularly when the other person fancied themselves the "dominant" party only to discover they are not, they often feel threatened and respond with hostility. It's not just men who respond this way but also other women. In fact, possibly more so because other women seem to often perceive the expression of intelligence of other women as invalidating of their own intelligence whereas men seem more likely to see it as a challenge and try to defend their status.

I've known some very gifted women and many of them have taken to down playing it and attempting to be unusually friendly because they have self esteem problems.

"Family Guy" actually touched on this subject with Brian's smart girlfriend, Lauren.

After several jobs of upsetting people unintentionally, I am about ready to work from home.

I don't go around willy nilly offering my opinion.......people however can read facial expressions however subtle...to know I am not a fan of having hordes of children or that I'm not a political conservative.....it's what you don't say that people notice.

Right. I'm surrounded by Tea Party Republicans......I'm more of a moderate. No interest in politics, think my value as a woman shouldn't involve my uterus. I believe in marriage as one woman one man....yet I've seen beautiful gay relationships. I don't make that my issue. Love is love in many ways.

Some of us believe Mary only had one Child.....others think differently.

What matters is how we all love one another.

Isn't it that everybody almost always behaves that way? Just tell me if I'm wrong. But I'm sure you had your moments when you see a new person, and you just don't feel like you could be friends.

Anyways, don't take it too hard. You'll be fine.

Another reason for the dislike some have had of me is a reason I believe many on the spectrum raise the ire of others...I am less inclined to group think and strive for honesty in my assessment of things even if those truths are unpopular.