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24 Mar 2010, 12:59 pm

I recently threw a party at my home and invited a lot of people to come, including my co-workers. One of these co-workers had told me that she was going to come with her husband but never showed up. So, went to work today, and asked her what happened. Her story was,

"See, what happened was, we were going to come but we just kept driving and ended up going to the mountains and went gambling." She later told me that she was too upset to come and went to the casino due to her her grandmother being in the hospital and needing a ride in her husband's car.

Does that sound a little fishy to you?



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24 Mar 2010, 1:02 pm

Not necessarily. She should have called and said that she wasn't going to come but I think she just felt too s**t and needed to get away from everything for a while. I am like that sometimes. I don't think it was anything to do with your party or you as a person.


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24 Mar 2010, 1:16 pm

Sounds like a gambling addict making excuses.



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24 Mar 2010, 1:26 pm

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Sounds like a gambling addict making excuses.


No, she isn't a heavy gambler, it's more down the lines of saying one thing and doing another. She has proven to be flaky whenever I invite her things and she seems to be more interested in her husband than in her other friends.



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24 Mar 2010, 2:35 pm

Miyah wrote:
I recently threw a party at my home and invited a lot of people to come, including my co-workers. One of these co-workers had told me that she was going to come with her husband but never showed up. So, went to work today, and asked her what happened. Her story was,

"See, what happened was, we were going to come but we just kept driving and ended up going to the mountains and went gambling." She later told me that she was too upset to come and went to the casino due to her her grandmother being in the hospital and needing a ride in her husband's car.

Does that sound a little fishy to you?


I think I remember you mentioning this friend before (or else I'm mixing you up with someone else). She sounds flakey as hell. Don't take it personally, just remember it for future. If you're ever planning an event that you have limited places for, don't bother wasting an invite on her.



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24 Mar 2010, 7:36 pm

Lene wrote:
Miyah wrote:
I recently threw a party at my home and invited a lot of people to come, including my co-workers. One of these co-workers had told me that she was going to come with her husband but never showed up. So, went to work today, and asked her what happened. Her story was,

"See, what happened was, we were going to come but we just kept driving and ended up going to the mountains and went gambling." She later told me that she was too upset to come and went to the casino due to her her grandmother being in the hospital and needing a ride in her husband's car.

Does that sound a little fishy to you?


I think I remember you mentioning this friend before (or else I'm mixing you up with someone else). She sounds flakey as hell. Don't take it personally, just remember it for future. If you're ever planning an event that you have limited places for, don't bother wasting an invite on her.


This is a different person from the one who pulled the wedding stunt last year and then acted like everything was my fault. I work with one and she really hasn't expressed wanting to get together. Actually, I went to this one's wedding in November and was on the guest book, and not one of her high school friends showed up. My meanwhile, my aunt suspects that she flaked out on them several times and that is why no one showed up to see her get married.

As for meeting other women, I am finding that women in their 20's tend to be very flakey by saying one thing and then doing another to someone whom isn't very high on their lists. I have had this issue several times and it just kills me and makes me feel as if there is something wrong with me.



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24 Mar 2010, 9:05 pm

I wonder how hard her husband's got it.


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27 Mar 2010, 6:55 pm

Miyah wrote:
I recently threw a party at my home and invited a lot of people to come, including my co-workers. One of these co-workers had told me that she was going to come with her husband but never showed up. So, went to work today, and asked her what happened. Her story was,

"See, what happened was, we were going to come but we just kept driving and ended up going to the mountains and went gambling." She later told me that she was too upset to come and went to the casino due to her her grandmother being in the hospital and needing a ride in her husband's car.

Does that sound a little fishy to you?


Yeah, that's quite an elaborate answer for a simple question. She'd make a decent novelist... :lol: Most people would just answer "sorry I couldn't make it, something came up". Though it depends on how you asked her. Maybe you sounded really demanding and pissed off, and put her on defense mode? I don't know, but I wouldn't worry about it. It's just a party, people show up if they can/want to. Next time, just lightly kid around that they missed out and briefly share with them something crazy or funny that happened. :wink:



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27 Mar 2010, 7:00 pm

CowboyFromHell wrote:
I wonder how hard her husband's got it.


what, a gambling addiction? That was the first thing that came to my mind. Especially since the wife had an elaborate 'excuse' ready. Sounds like they (the husband and wife) have done this before, so I wouldn't take it personally, Miyah. :D


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27 Mar 2010, 8:18 pm

i doubt she was just bluffing you to dodge the party. if she were to make up an excuse, it would probably sound better. and more generic. someone who doesn't gamble probably wouldn't say they do because most people look down on gambling. it does sound like she has a little problem to tell the truth.



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29 Mar 2010, 12:12 am

Big deal if she is lying. What are you planning on doing? Confronting her? Bad idea.
If you're not planning on doing anything, why do you need to know at all?
There's not much point.



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29 Mar 2010, 5:44 pm

Daniella wrote:
Big deal if she is lying. What are you planning on doing? Confronting her? Bad idea.
If you're not planning on doing anything, why do you need to know at all?
There's not much point.


No, some situations there is no real point in being confrontational like that since it will start a big fight and all kinds of other issues. I think I will stay cordial to her while at work and get along the best that I can and limit the number of invitations to her if she is going to act like that.



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30 Mar 2010, 8:12 am

Miyah wrote:
No, some situations there is no real point in being confrontational like that since it will start a big fight and all kinds of other issues. I think I will stay cordial to her while at work and get along the best that I can and limit the number of invitations to her if she is going to act like that.

I think that's the best attitude to have indeed. Don't think about it too much, it's a waste :wink: you have more important matters on your mind.