What is a friend?

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It wasn't the Psychology teacher who didn't come to me when she had a problem with my behavior.

It wasn't a college student who when venting about the teacher having issues with me suggested violence I agreed and we laughed it off as a joke. HE stabbed me in the back and told the school/the teacher

It wasn't the kid from Elementary who's hit me then beg for forgiveness/friendship (although to his credit we hugged and things were fine I saw him again in College)

So I sadly have no friends and I'm thinking people I THOUGHT were my friend/ the College student and teacher were maybe not. and looking at my past friend record I sometimes think why bother making friends?

The second bit would be entrapment, legally speaking. Except that it would boil down to hearsay. The only logical explanation would be that they thought you actually considered it; like misinterpreting an expression or tone.

Sometimes people sell out. In elementary school, I was suspended for about a week because my classmates 'thought' they heard me say I was going to kill someone. Never mind that they'd all had it in for me from the start; I was convicted by a bunch of bullies because it was their words (LIES) against mine. Knowing what I know now, I would at least have made a show of it. "I saw that one with the devil! He signed the devil's book!"

Real friends are good to have... the trouble is finding them.

What an impossible thing to answer. For me, I think the people I've considered friends (ones I consider best friends, not what society states is a friend) fit the following criteria:

Not awkward around–I can be myself around them.
Can be trusted with most of my secrets.
No doubt in their faith in me. Always knowing they will accept me.
We laugh and have fun together.
There seems to be a pull, and we both seek each other.
Respect for each other and a willingness to learn more about each other.

And they should feel these things about me.


I'm sure there's more, but I'm too tired to refine this list.

A friend is somebody who accepts you, just as you are, who wouldn't hurt you, in any way.