Why Are You So Quiet?

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Lots of people ask me this, its almost funny that its the only thing that they ever ask me.

I don't talk because I find normal conversation boring, or I don't know what to say. And I don't like talking about myself because I am not proud of anything I have done with my life lately.

Not a bad 'blog. I've read some of your other articles, and I can relate to some of your experiences easily. You're a good writer.

I live under this misguided notion that silence is strength and build walls all around me to keep people out.

I hate that question/observation. When I moved into my house 3 years ago, my next door neighbour said "You're very quiet" and it made me really angry. I kept wishing I had said "You're very old" to see how she likes such a stupid observation about her pointing out for no good reason.

I was really shocked the other day when I met a friends girlfriend at a party and she said "I was told you were really shy and didn't like talking to people but you don't come across that way at all"

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lol, i got asked this same question all the time. and i feel embarrased sometimes shrug how do i answer that? i never am sure what to say. or, 'you should talk more' annoys me too. -_-

mainly because i dont like most of the people around me is what i say

I always get this and always answer with "Because I have nothing to say" or go into a 20 minute long lecture on heisenberg's uncertainty principle.

PFFFFT! They weren't expecting "nice weather today?" surely.

What is the point in asking this anyways? People ask me this plenty and then assume Im shy. I am not shy, if I dont have anything worth saying then I wont talk why must we blab about nonsense.

Yes! It really annoys me too.
I believe that most people talk just to hear themselves talk.
I wonder if they are afraid of the silence in their heads and are just whistling in the dark.
Maybe they're afraid that if they stop making racket they might LEARN something.
When we were kids, I used to tell my little sister that if she didn't stop talking, when she got old she would run out of words and be a mute old lady. (She's still blathering)

Why am I so quiet? Maybe I hate you.
Maybe I have something to say but you wouldn't want to hear it anyway.
Maybe if I tried to speak I would be constantly be interrupted and I know it.
Maybe the only response to your question is to point out that you are an idiot.
Maybe the only answer I can think of is (after long thought) is inappropriate and not PC or superficial enough (Oops, time's up, you've wandered off).
Maybe I would make a fool of myself pointing out the elephant in the room. (I'll never understand why they keep putting elephants in rooms if they don't want them remarked about.)
Better to keep one's mouth shut and be thought a fool than to open it and prove it.

What annoys me even more is people trying to judge my mood by my face. I might just be posing a question to mysellf like trying to figure out how to lay the mosaic of my floor tile and I have to endure comments like "Hey! Smile, It's not like your dog just died!" I want to shout at them : "Only idiots go around grinning for no reason!"

I think McDonalds Hiring Campaign is discriminatory: "Now hiring Smiling Happy Faces"

Throughout my life I've been asked this question. Since I've only discovered about AS 2 years ago (and I've only accepted the very strong possibility of being an aspie since yesterday), my answer until now was simply "I don't know". For obvious reasons, it will still be my default answer to every idiot who asks this stupid question from now on. It is a really annoying question...