tcorrielus wrote:
Yeah, it is a natural. Friendship and intimacy are the norms we've been taught in this society. It's not healthy for us to be remain lonely for so long.
Ah, that gets to the heart of the tension...
Is it natural, or are we only taught it's natural?
Would many of us be happier is society taught that it's ok to have the number and depth of friends that you felt like? I was certainbly pushed into degrees of socialising I did not want or like. It may not be healthy not because of the act itself as much because of society's disapproval of people whose preference lies this way.
Or have I just found too many contacts over-emotional, exploitative, boring... just because I've never learned the right way to do it, or enjoy it?
Or am I "wired weird" by "normal" standards?
And if so, is that a disease, or "just the way I am"? One to be treated and cured, one to be noted and adapted to.