Is hanging out with your sibling's friends insulting?

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I've hung out with my brother's friends once when we played basketball and it kind of feels insulting because you don't have friends to hang out with and you have to resolve to hanging out with your sibling's friends. It was good that my brother had friends though because in grade 9 I frequently got a ride to school (my brother and his friends were in grade 12) since one of my brother's friend had a car and drove. I remember I would leave the house before my brother does and so his friends would see me and offer me a ride. My brother got pissed at one time and said "they are not your friends. Stop stepping into the car every morning." But I insisted, "They offered me a ride, its not like I just walk up to the car and ask."

I hang out with my sister's friend I consider her my friend aswell and my sisters friend's little sister is one of my best friends so we know the whole family and I love chatting with them and talking to them they are a great bunch!

I have been that way too, never able to make friends, but my little brother's friends never did mind having me around. In fact they did a lot to make me feel included, and nobody my own age ever did. My brother didn't really ever mind me hanging out with their group though, he knows I can't make friends on my own, and for a little brother he's always been really protective of me and very caring and sweet. Makes me feel like the younger sibling for sure. I love him lots though, he's one of my reasons for living and he probably doesn't even know how much.

I see no problem with it. I never hung out with my sister's friends but it was always good for her the handful of times she hung out with me and my friends, she needs more people to chill with and now that we're 2000 miles apart I wish she'd hang out with them on her own for sure.

I have a lot of "old" friends and I basically consider their families my own. It's totally normal for people in the family to get together with one another even if it's outside the initial friendship. It didn't start usually until I was a bit older like early high school age so for me it was mostly a sphere of "bad influence"--older kids would take out their friends' little brothers and sisters and get them drunk and stoned, show them what's up, care for the kid with their life if they got in trouble somehow... Bringing people up and never leaving a man hanging, basically, busting balls constantly but giving the guidance they need and treating them like part of the crew. It's how ironclad relationships develop, and s**t usually comes back around. Far as I'm concerned that's the tightest kind of unity you can have.

Yeah, I've felt a small pang of that. However, in the end, it's something instead of nothing, so it's irrelevent. Connections, regardless of origin, breed more connections. And we need those connections badly.

On the bright side, my sisters friends were hot. Not that I had any shot with any of them.

I don't see the big deal. I think if his friends didn't want you around, I wouldn't stick around (that's just me, I feel weird staying where I'm unwanted). But if it's just your brother being weird about it then I suppose it's fine.

Nope, it's not. I'm sure it may feel bad not having own friends to hang out with, but insulting it's not.
This is the definition of "insulting":
a. To treat with gross insensitivity, insolence, or contemptuous rudeness.
b. To affront or demean: example: "an absurd speech that insulted the intelligence of the audience."
You cannot feel insulted unless someone has done anything insensitive or contemptuous towards you. I'm sure you don't mean that it is other people's insensitive behaviour that makes you hang around with your sibling's friends.
Besides, how can having someone to actually hang out with feel insulting?

Not "insulting" but certainly "depressing."

When you hang out with a sibling's friends, it basically means you don't have your own circle of friends and rely on someone else for a social life.

Heh yeah. But imagine if you didn't even have that much.
Actually, I wouldn't have progressed to my current level of social fluency if not for my sister's friends. Yeah, it's embarrassing, but ya know what? Ignore that feeling, and utilize those friends anyways.

My brother's best friend has become my friend as well. My brother gets visibly jealous if said friend spends more time with me than him. He also gets annoyed that said friend and I frequently hug each other.

Our friend is male btw, and no we do not "like" each other in the romantic/sexual sense. My older sister has suggested that I hook up with him, but both he and I find that idea disgusting.

Do you mean that you are insulted by having to hang out with your sibling's friends? Or do you mean that your sibling is insulted?

My sister certainly doesn't like it when I hang out with her and her friends, she actively discourages it.

I never did hang out, with my sister's friends. I don't mesh with my peers.

Nope, I do not find this insulting but I just find it a little awkard in a way since they are 5 years younger than me.

a 15 year old boy

Hello , im happy that your bro i s fine with that, but i have a big brother 2 who is like you ( 3 years older) . But my bro doesent just hang with my firends, its like when i have friends over he makes my friends go against me. My friends likes having him around alot. But its not like hes just annoying, hes annoying and steals my friends. Its like he says he hates the people who have picked on him for years, so he couldnt make friends, i have had problems makeing friends the same way as him, and now...

Now that i think about it i want to talk about my 2 friends, cause im not really sure how good friends they are.

friend A: or lets kall him Tim have alot of common interests with me, MMORPG games, call of duty games, were very addicted to coca cola:D and we have even had talks about... yeah everything... still when were around others he b*****s about me like he does with everyone else. always talking about other people , but never about himself. But i have a feeling like hes just insecure and takes it on me, even though i have no idea why that makes me feel sympathy since i feel like im a very good friend... and for some reason he doesent know it...

Friend B: lets call this guy bob . He likes to think hes a good friend and pefect in every way, but hes a hipocrit and rarely thinks about what he says or do. Hes also insecure i know it. he even studders while he speaks , no offence. We also share common interests , jus not with coca cola.

both of thoes friends hangs with my bro more then me while their over. I once talked to each one of them under 4 eyes whenever i was alone with one of them about this thing about hanging with my bro. but what i said to each one was " Tim, it was totally akward yesterday cuz bob was more with my bro then me". I said the same thing to bob just about Tim this time. I had hoped that they both would realize that i was actually talking about them cause they did i t themselfs and apoligize. But i got the anwser from both what any social dumbass would give in this situation. "yeah, the other friend is totally just there to hang with your bro, what a jerk".

i dont want to make this thing so much longer , but i have 2 questions everyone can anwser, pleaze send it as mess to me.

how do i stop my bro from hanging with my friends , easy solution / be more kind to me if he wants to hang with my friends.

and is these bad things about my friends ebough that i should not consider them as good friends?

I get along well with most of my sister's friends (who are around 14-15 years old). I don't try to make them my friends, though; I just talk to them when they come over, and I'm Facebook friends with a couple of them who I've known for years. I think my sister would be pissed if I actually tried to hang out with them, though. I know I hated it when she tagged along with my friends when we were younger.

I hate to be the downer on this thread, but I would find it degrading, if it was because I didn't have friends of my own. But... you know, we've all got aspie traits here, we understand. And I'm sure it's not that uncommon.