What do you make off this situation?

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1 year ago some new neighbours moved in next door too us. The man next door is english and his wife is from eastern europe or turkey. the man next door also has a baby son or girl i am not sure? our neighbours house is part off a town house so he is attached too about three more houses. we on the ohter hand are seperate and not attached too his house.

More too the point off september last year my dad was doing some garderning and he spotted the man next door doing some gardening as well. my dad only being about 3 feet from the neighbour said "hello my name is graham" the neighbour then said back too my dad in a misrable and quiet tone off voice "oh good afternoon" the conversation then ended and they stopped talking and got on with there buissness.

the guy and his family have not spoken too me or my family since they moved into the house next door. i think they kinda rented out the house next door and quite often vanish for a few weeks.

me being 21 i thought off saying hi too the guy next door but do you think that would not be a good idea?

If you see them in the street or close by in their garden there's no harm in smiling and saying hello. It doesn't sound as if they're very chatty though, so don't be offended if they don't want to say any more than that.

Do you think its rude how the neighbour responded too my father?

No. He may have been having a miserable day / week / month / life.

Perhaps it is the way they do things in their culture. Despite this, a friendly hello from the neighbour would be nice

No, he did reply and as you yourself said he seemed distracted. You don't know what's going on in someone's life.

Edited to add: I used to live in a terraced house with small fences between the gardens so if you were out in the garden at the same time as the neighbours you were effectively sharing the same space. I got on well with both neighbours, but I would have preferred more privacy as I'd like to have been able to go into my garden without feeling pressure to make conversation even if I didn't want to. That's why I deliberately suggested saying hello if you meet in the street - he may not want to be disturbed when he's in his own garden.

Edited again: Oops, I did say close by in his garden. But that would definately just be a hello with no expectation of anything more, and no offence at all if no more was forthcoming. Your garden is part of your home, your personal space.

Last edited by Marcia on 22 Aug 2011, 6:58 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Agreed, maybe he has alot of things going on in his life

A few weeks ago the guy next door shouted at his kid whilst my parents were in the garden. my dad said "that guy next door is an a**hole shouting at his son like that". Although my mother suspected that his child burned his hand.

Not only that but he also did some work on our fence WITHOUT our permission.

i don't think the man next door is a very nice person FULL STOP. Just snobby.

You're making negative judgements about someone you don't know. How many people on this site are thought to be snobby simply because they find it difficult to talk to people or make eye contact? You're making massive assumptions based on hardly anything.

Go talk to him yourself, you'll never know if you don't ask

Huge assumption? I know the type and trust me he's a a haughty and dull SNOB.

I just want the a**hole too move away somewhere else.

I think that situation you describe with your father was rather ambiguous and even if the man was upset it could have been something entirely unrelated to your father.

I don't see any problem in you saying hello. My family had a tendency to be somewhat loud and a few neighbors had an issue with them but I always said hello to them and once they realized I was a fairly quite, pleasant person, they usually warmed up to me.