Are you a loner?

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03 Nov 2011, 10:39 am

I was reminded of this, pretty much sums up what i see when i see normal people with "only" 20 or so friends that claim to be loners:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BA19DJ5Onto[/youtube]

(The experiment in that episode was very intresting btw.. wondering if it would work).

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04 Nov 2011, 12:12 am

I am very outgoing when placed into a social situation, but when I am not directly around people, I hide away and become an extreme introvert. People end up becoming frustrated as I don't keep in touch as often as I would like, but the reality is that I just need a lot of alone time.

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04 Nov 2011, 5:21 pm

I just registerd because I felt lonely. The weird part is that I only feel lonely when I see others having a blast with others. I get jellous about their obvious connection to one another. I want that carefree and instant connection too.

When I do have my one and only friend over I sometimes get so frustrated and irritated by her just because she's there. I just can't get a grip on what I am feeling. I want to socialice but at the same time I want to continue the boring thing I just did when she dropped by unanounced.

In big crowds I tend to melt into the background and become on of the furniture.
Hi I am a chair. Come and sit on me. Just beeing ironic. :lol:
One side of me just wants to sit and listen in on what everyone else says. Watch and lern.
While the other side of me wants to make jokes and yeah make a fool of myself just to hear a laughter.
When everything takes part inside me, this obvious fight over which side shall take charge, the whole subject of the conversation could have change. Or I just haven't figured out where and in which conversation-pause I can make my input.

I'm tired of myself today.
And sorry for the bad spelling. I haven't written this much in english since I went to school. And that's about seven years ago.

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04 Nov 2011, 5:57 pm

^^^
welcome to our club, Mad Jessie
and your english is fine.

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04 Nov 2011, 6:05 pm

auntblabby wrote:

^^^
welcome to our club, Mad Jessie

and your english is fine.

Thank you. English are my second language too.

That made my heart warm. I think I can go to bed now. The clock are after midnight after all.

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04 Nov 2011, 6:10 pm

^^^
god natt, vän

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04 Nov 2011, 6:15 pm

Oh I didn't expect to see swedish in a place like this.

God natt. Du med.

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04 Nov 2011, 6:25 pm

I like being a loner as well.

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04 Nov 2011, 10:08 pm

I'm a loaner and for the most part, I like it.

Sometimes I wish I had a S/O and some friends though, but most of the time I like being a loaner.

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05 Nov 2011, 3:17 am

Mad_Jessie wrote:

In big crowds I tend to melt into the background and become on of the furniture.
Hi I am a chair. Come and sit on me. Just beeing ironic. :lol:

One side of me just wants to sit and listen in on what everyone else says. Watch and lern.
While the other side of me wants to make jokes and yeah make a fool of myself just to hear a laughter.
When everything takes part inside me, this obvious fight over which side shall take charge, the whole subject of the conversation could have change. Or I just haven't figured out where and in which conversation-pause I can make my input.

I'm tired of myself today.
And sorry for the bad spelling. I haven't written this much in english since I went to school. And that's about seven years ago.

i can relate well with this......actually we are so acquainted with aloneness that company makes us feel disgust.

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05 Nov 2011, 3:33 am

Mad_Jessie wrote:

Oh I didn't expect to see swedish in a place like this.

God natt. Du med.

Nej, det finns inga Svenskar här, han fejkar det bara

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05 Nov 2011, 8:16 am

Jag bara försöker få honom att känna sig mer "hemma."

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05 Nov 2011, 4:03 pm

Hahahaha. Well I'm a n00b. What did you expect?

Jag förväntar mig alltid mindre av folk än vad de presterar.

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11 Nov 2011, 12:26 am

You are alienating most of the forum when you speak swedish.

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11 Nov 2011, 11:23 am

Phipe wrote:

You are alienating most of the forum when you speak swedish.

http://translate.google.com/

There. Now everyone can read what an unexiting conversation it was.

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13 Nov 2011, 7:09 pm

I've always been a loner, until I discovered drinking at the age of 15. I guess you can say I self-medicated and for a long time I hung out at parties, clubs, bars and met a lot of people. I don't drink much anymore, so I don't go out as much but if I do I prefer to hang out with my closest friends. It was nice meeting lots of people because I've always wanted to do that, but now I'm back to my old self, and I could care less. I'm a lone wolf and I only hang out with those who will understand me (fellow Aspies) ^_^

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