ASD Friends or NT Friends?

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Do you bond friendship better with people that are NT or with an ASD?
I've bonded with both and in all honesty I actually keep better contact with NT Friends than Aspies or anyone with an ASD.
Just wondered what your opinions are on this.

It totaly depends on who you know.

i find i connect the best with NTs i have given a full disclosure with explination, so the ones that know what i'm going trough on a day-to-day basis and in specific cases.

Sadly I never had any ASD friends (or at least wouldn't have known). I've only known NT friends.

Admittedly it's tough with NTs. I do love them (as I love all people) and the NT friends I have are the kind of friends you'd have for life. It just sucks when they get into rowdy moods and wanna go drinking or clubbing. Or band all together in a huge group. That's when the alienation starts setting in.

Kinda would like to have Aspie friends, if only to have a kindred spirit around.

Neither.

You analyze your friends to determine if they are ASD or NT?

That's a strange way to gauge your friendships.

Theoretically AS/ASD friends may have a better understanding of your social problems but then they have social problems of their own and so are less likely to be able to maintain friendships...surely? Two AS/ASD's to me would be like two North poles on a magnet.

Of course, this is theoretical - I've had one AS/ASD friend (my ex) and she is a pain to stay in touch with, but not sure that one experience would prove my theory as being true, and I've had just as much poor luck maintaining friendships with NT's.

NT with traits.

I get along with most people pretty well. I do have a diagnosed ASD friend, who was my friend long before my diagnosis, online friend, though, but I've stayed good friends with him since like 2004 or 2005. The friend I met him through I've known since then, too, and he's been an even better friend, ASD friend suspects him to be ASD, too. I have a few friends where it's a possibility, one who's mother strongly suspects it in 2/3 of her kids I'm friends with, but again, no proper diagnosis. All diagnosed ADD/ADHD, though.

I think in general, the people I have the most hardest time getting along with are people with Meyers Briggs "F" or feeling type. I'm not good with discussing feelings, and don't really "think" in them much, so yeah. So they're the people that seem to b***h about like, little things I do that I'm unaware of. It seems that's more the disconnect, I can carry on conversations and be friendly, but once it comes to talking about feelings and relating to them on a meaningful level, their way of doing it is the "feelings" thing, and I can't just have a grand old time talking about cars or whatever. As far as dealing with extroverted people, I'm kind of outgoing myself, though not really extroverted, if that makes sense. Sometimes I overwhelm introverted people with my outgoingness sometimes. I think the main problem I have with the I_F_ people is a lot seem passive aggressive, and won't tell me how I've offended or wronged them, and expect me to just read and be aware of their feelings, and then I hit a brick wall, as well, I can't read them.

The main thing with ASD friends I like is they're more "straight shooters" and we can much more freely express opinions with eachother and debate, without each side getting emotional about it.

But, people are people.

ASD friends or introverted NTs.

Having an extroverted NT as a friend would make me feel too inferior, not to mention I wouldn't get along with them very well.

It doesn't matter if their are ASD or NT for me its better if you treat them equally rather saying this person is better then the other.