Everything must be immaculate for a wedding....

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My mum has been invited to a friend's wedding. This friend isn't her best of friends, she's just a work colleague really, but my mum feels like she has to go. I understand that going to a wedding means you want to look your best, but there has been so much fuss with all the accessories she has brought to go with this wedding. She brought one of those pretty flower things you put in your hair which was beautiful, but now she's laid it so neatly in silk, then in paper packaging, and has took everything out of a big drawer just to store this one thing, from the fear of it being ruined, although I have no idea how it can get ruined really. Then she brought a lovely dress, what she has also isolated, out of fear of it getting ruined. Then she brought a card, and it has a teeny little crease in it what nobody would really notice, and now she is panicking and planning on going to the town again to buy a new one. It's all making me feel a bit dizzy.

I must remind myself not to go near her when she is actually dressed up before attending this wedding, I shall treat her like an antique.

Also I am never going to a wedding, if it causes this much fuss and has an extremely strict rule that every woman MUST look absolutely perfect in every way. Ohh, it's driving me crazy!

No offence, but I notice that people who are rarely invited to weddings tend to pay more attention to their appearance than people who are frequently invited to weddings.

So this wedding has become your mom's special interest for a while and she's enjoying the preparations. What's wrong with that? Share in her enthusiasm a bit, just to be a good sport. Preparing for an enjoyable event or trip is often more fun that the event or the trip themselves.

She's excited about going and wants to make sure that everything she gets for it stays nice. If you were going somewhere important to you, and you had an idea in your mind of exactly how you wanted to look and you bought the things to look that way, wouldn't you do what you could to keep them the way they were until you were going to use them?

While you may not be excited about it, she is. If you want her to respect your preferences about things that are important to you, then you need to respect her preferences about her stuff. You don't have to agree with her actions or even really respect that she's doing them, but don't say anything to her about it and point out how she's going overboard or anything. That way, next time she complains about you doing something she considers odd, you can say "you went so far overboard about that wedding and I didn't say anything, so cut me some slack"

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I find weddings to be a sickening affair. Surrounded by people that have put in so much effort to look better than others around them to the point you wouldn't recognize them if you saw them in normal conditions, mainly women due to all the make up etc. It just seems very false to me. Then you have the after party were you have to make nice with other people like their good buddies or something then most likely never speak to them again. If you don't feel comfortable, don't go. Your missing out on absolutely nothing