A school-related 'party'-- advice?
minotaurheadcheese
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In a couple of days I am going to an event designed to let students "mingle" with the Linguistics faculty. It's going to be a pizza party. Normally I avoid parties and such like the zombie apocalypse, but I should really go because I need to get to know more people so I can get advice and letters of reference for graduate school/assistantships.
This is exactly the kind of thing I am WORST at when it comes to socializing. A large group of people where I don't really know anyone. No one approaches me, because they don't already know me and I'm always told I'm not approachable. So, I have to take the initiative, but I never know whom to approach, how to approach them, what topics of conversation to engage in, or even where to look (when it's crowded, you can't stare anywhere without someone thinking you're staring at them ) Then because I'm so nervous, I always say something ridiculous and end up with an attack of foot-in-mouth disease.
So. Any tips?
(Oh and ftr, alcohol's not an option in this case. It wouldn't be appropriate, and what's more it would exponentially increase the chances of the foot-in-mouth thing.)
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I always end up doing this because I think I will look semi-normal, but I always end up eating too much, like literally non-stop eating, which backfires and makes me look super weird anyway.
The good thing, is you already know who you need to talk to. You said your goal is letters of recommendation and assistantships, so you know to focus on professors. I would say, just walk up and tell them you're making the rounds trying to meet the professors and learn what classes they teach. You can maybe tell them a little about what interests you in linguistics and then move on to the next one. I would try to spend just a few minutes with each one and then make an early exit. (Actually, I would probably even tell a white lie and say I had somewhere to be, so I could get through the conversations quickly).
"What course are you studying?", "How are you finding it here so far?", "What do you think of the course?" could be some good openers. I agree hang around the food. Then you'll get a good flow of people. If they want to talk to you, they'll ask you a question back. If not, just say "See you around then" or something, and they'll move on.
minotaurheadcheese
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Thanks guys Those all sound like good tips and I'll keep them all in mind. Wish me luck!
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