Should I be offended?

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Backstory: I graduated last year from an art college. Every year they have an annual show where the major works are shown, lots of celebrating etc. During my time at the college I was going through dealing with a personal crisis and trying to complete my studies in a stressful time. Dealt with it and didn’t tell anyone the whole year. At the time of graduation, I told one girl in my class about it. Everything including telling her I had Asperger’s that shocked her the most. After graduation, I haven’t seen anyone in person from my class since. I have some of them on facebook which brings me to today.

As a class, we were a close group and we all promised to keep in contact with each other. But as it turns out we weren’t as close as I thought. This morning on my facebook newsfeed I saw that a former classmate was attending the annual art show. I was curious so I checked the event, it turns out everyone in my previous class, except for myself, was invited. The person that organised the event was a former classmate too, I admit we weren’t very close but still, I kept wondering why I wasn’t invited.

What should I do about it? Should I be offended?

Maybe not offended, but certainly disappointed. It seems by your post you think it could be discrimination and if they know you're AS it very well could be. That is who NT's are. Arrogant and simple minded.

I think I'd contact the former classmate/organizer and ask if I can have an invitation.

The first thing to keep in mind is that every group of close friends, nearing the end of school, plans to keep in touch on a regular basis...very few actually do.

Do you have a right to be upset about not being invited? Absolutely. But keep in mind that 1. everybody keeping in close contact was very unlikely (if not impossible) to have actually happen in the first place and 2. he/she may not have intentionally left you out...you already said you weren't that close. It's not surprising that someone in the group could have simply been forgotten when she was trying to remember the list to invite, and it may just be bad luck that person happened to be you.

Is the person who created the event on Facebook in your friends list? If they are not, then they would not have been able to invite you.



Maybe it's because I'm neurotypical, but I find that a nasty, ignorant comment. Meh.