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rachel_519
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14 Oct 2012, 11:29 pm

Is it normal to lose interest in friendships when they are long-distance? Should I feel bad about not feeling motivated to email my friends who have moved away? Sometimes they email me, and I always try to respond, but it usually takes me where weeks to do it. (I also get really nervous about writing social emails, so that makes the problem worse.). How can I get motivated about this?


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15 Oct 2012, 4:27 pm

Dunno but it seems that forcing yourself to be motivated won't make the rest happen.

For myself, I find that I'm sort-of out-of-sight, out-of-mind. I do my best to let people know that this is sort of how I'm wired and not to take it personally, or to feel that I've hidden something from them that I'm annoyed about.

Not responding for weeks can be easy to misinterpret. I try to respond the same day, even if I don't have a lot to say. As lame as it sometimes is, I just let them know that I'm "sorry that my response is sort-of short". Even if it's to leave a closing as "In haste," at least I let them know why there wasn't a lot to say from me.



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15 Oct 2012, 4:48 pm

rachel_519 wrote:
Is it normal to lose interest in friendships when they are long-distance? Should I feel bad about not feeling motivated to email my friends who have moved away? Sometimes they email me, and I always try to respond, but it usually takes me where weeks to do it. (I also get really nervous about writing social emails, so that makes the problem worse.). How can I get motivated about this?


Very. The answer is to find something that you actually enjoy doing.