How to end a conversation.

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There are many times when I get someone who talks and talks and talks.

It is very hard for me to interupt them to stop. They go on and on and on.

I know some people like to talk, but I have no idea if the body language I am doing or not doing is giving them the green light to keep talking. I don't kow if I am sending signals to them to motivate them to talk!

What can I do body language wise to give them the silent signal that I am done with the conversation?

Or is it not that simple???

I work in an office and check out patients after they see the doctor. Sometimes they want more time to discuss the recommendations from the physician. I can only give each person about 4 minutes because another patient will be coming in.
I turn my body away from the person that I am speaking with, sometimes I will look over their shoulder and tilt my head, this always makes the other person turn around and they stop talking while they do it. I use that moment to say "so let's make a new appt and finish our conversation when the patients are not here"

Roni

I don't think is a body language issue. Even if you try to leave or exaggerate disinterest, some people will keep talking. I have those problems with a librarian, my hairdresser and shop clerks.

This happens to me a lot... Sometimes I just have to apologize for being busy and just walk away...

''Yeah... I know (or whatever). But hey, I got tons of stuff to do, *really* gotta go. Nice chatting with you! Cya!''

Interesting...

So, from what I take from what people said here, it helps to use an apology in order for the other person to not feel your being rude for their rudeness of talking to much or to long?

OK, that makes sense to me.

Eye contact is used to let the other person know you are listening to them, right? So, if in the middleof a conversation that I no longer want to be a part of and find it hard to interupt, I could rube my eyes with my hands and perhaps turn partially away from the person to give them the hint that I am done? Gee, that sounds like a lot when I think about from the other person's point of view.

I have an AS friend who never says goodbye and it drives me nuts. Like once we were walking in a hallway, and I turned around and he had disappeared. I saw him walking in the other direction and I was like what.... XD

The best ways to say goodbye are:
"ok i'm gonna go now, see you later"
"I have to go do [excuse]"

for professionals: "ok so we've run out time for today, if you have any more questions contact etc. etc."

Sometimes it's good to be armed with a few social tools. One of the best tools is a mobile. In most social context, people will have mobiles in their hands, and if you're getting bored or want a conversation to end you can always looks at your mobile, pretend you have an important text message, and say 'excuse me need to check something out here' or something similar, then move a few feet back, and use this as an excuse to exist a conversation. To be polite you should say something like 'I'll get back to you....'

How to end a conversation ?

You could try farting really loudly, then flap your arms about, declare "phwoarrrrrr", and then use that as a convenient excuse to make a quick get-away.

I used to have a colleague who was much further to the autistic end of the "spectrum" than me. It was so hard to get him to stop talking sometimes.

Being at a lack for social skills myself, I let him talk and talk, I think maybe I just walked away mid sentence after indicating several times that I wanted to relieve myself.

Many times when I try to end a conversation the attempt fails and I end up lengthening the conversation with such attempts. I think I'm too polite on the outside.

1) Look at your watch. That's a cue that you need to get going.
2) Interrupt with, "Sorry, do you have the time?" Then say you need to get going.
3) Limit eye-contact
4) Get "distracted" by something and then apologize for being "rude" and end the conversation then.
5) Say things like, "Anyway..." and follow up with, "I should be getting going"
6) Check your cell. If they are rude enough to talk AT you instead of TO you, start texting. If you come off uninterested, they'll stop yacking. You can always apologize for the "rudeness" so you're not walking away with ill feelings.

Just some random ideas.

LOL I dated this one person who kept interrupting me with, "A-huh, a-huh, a-huh" during my conversation. It used to BUG THE CRAP OUT OF ME but it was enough of a point that got me to shut up.