I answered the phone!

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08 Jan 2014, 2:40 pm

One of my friends called me this morning, and although I wasn't ready to talk I answered the phone!

I let her do most of the talking, making sure to reply in full sentences only when she stopped talking. I wanted her to know I was listening and interested.

I put the phone on speaker at the beginning of the call to allow me to multi-task. I didn't feel nearly as trapped and was able to relax.

We talked for 40 minutes and 52 seconds! This is the longest conversation I remember having with anyone, ever! ....My ex girlfriend complains that I only talk on the phone with her for 2 or 3 minutes!

I can't believe I did it! Feeling really really happy.

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08 Jan 2014, 2:49 pm

Well done, Katniss. Remember that practice makes perfect.

I know that I've had trouble with phone calls in the past, but now I'm okay. Hopefully, the same will go for you in the future.

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08 Jan 2014, 3:03 pm

Outstanding, as CyclopsSummers said “Practice makes perfect.” Keep it up.

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08 Jan 2014, 3:16 pm

Good job. Keep up the good work and remember this success if a phone conversation goes bad. Keep trying and do not give up.

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08 Jan 2014, 4:11 pm

Wow, thank you so much for the encouraging replies. It means a lot to me

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09 Jan 2014, 5:01 pm

Good for you! Phone conversations can be pretty tricky, but keep it up.

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09 Jan 2014, 5:24 pm

Hopefully I can follow your example and be brave on my next phone call.

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09 Jan 2014, 5:56 pm

40 minutes!! !

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09 Jan 2014, 6:04 pm

LOL thank you. YES it was a long call. And yes there were moments of silence. But I didn't say a word or force the conversation to keep moving. I followed her lead.

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09 Jan 2014, 10:20 pm

Katniss wrote:

One of my friends called me this morning, and although I wasn't ready to talk I answered the phone!

Congratulations! That's awesome!

I am so scared of the phone ringing that I only use a cell phone, I have messages go directly to voicemail, I use Google so I don't even have to listen to the voice mails but can just read them as text, and keep my ringer permanently turned off.

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09 Jan 2014, 11:37 pm

i've had 40 min calls that are 90% silence. interesting so i'm not the only one who gets anxiety from a phone ringing. I also get too worked up to leave voice messages to people.

congrates on that Katniss, idk what i'd say to a girl over the phone. I prefer irc, or texts though i'm actually recently not sure what to ask or say to girls on texts either

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10 Jan 2014, 9:12 am

lolcatwt wrote:

I am so scared of the phone ringing that I only use a cell phone, I have messages go directly to voicemail, I use Google so I don't even have to listen to the voice mails but can just read them as text, and keep my ringer permanently turned off.

lolcatwt, I am so afraid of any kind of social interaction. If the doorbell or phone rings, my heart races and I freeze in terror. I always expect the worst imaginable scenario.

I don't even check voicemails because I'm so afraid. So answering that call was a super big deal for me.

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10 Jan 2014, 9:27 am

sly279 wrote:

sly279, I am afraid if I don't talk during a conversation, I'm not being fun, interesting or social. Quite the opposite this time. Accepting times of silence allowed my friend a chance to talk. I feel like I tend to monopolize the conversations because I'm so busy trying to be entertaining.

Thank you everyone for the feedback!

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