My son who is 16 gets very upset when kids bully him

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My son whi is 16 has had it with the bullies. he said he is ready to snap. Do you have any suggestions on how to handle being mad because of bullies. I told him to just look at them calmly and say get out of my face. ??? Would be be better if kids knew he had Asperges?

Regarding the Asperger's issue: no would be my advice. He'll just get it in the neck for being a ret*d.

No, it wouldn't be better for the kids to know that he has Aspergers. Not unless they would be caring and understanding of it and all but with them being bullies that's obviously not the case and they will just make fun of him for it and bully him even more.

It breaks my heart everyday, how should he handle these kids

Well I guess he would have to say something back to them or something but I don't know how to tell you because that would totally depend on the circumstances and everything. Sometimes it is better to just ignore them but that might not always be easy to do. What sort of things do they do or say to him? Does he tell you?

tell him he has your permission to hurt them, once he gives them a few pops in the jaw they should leave him alone, also i have this comeback for this girl who slapped me at soccer pratice "if you ever lay another finger on me your face will become the gym floor" she got scared quick and never bothered me again. It was awsome.

First it's important to make sure he's not misreading social cues or anything like that. It's a common thing for boys and men to pick on one another.

I'd talk to the school first. Once they don't do anything about it, tell him to snap. I've learned long ago there's no reason for me to feel bad when someone else is being a dick. If they think it's okay to make me feel bad so they can feel good, then the opposite is appropriate as well.

Having talked to the school first will give you some legal backing when they suspend him for fighting.

In gym class this kid who has picked on him before , (accidentally Yeah right) elbowed him in the nose during basketball and he had blood all over his shirt, the kid elbowed him again and knocked him down. The gym teacher does nothing. I have talked to the school the sports kids who are the Hero's for football and basketball get a slap on the wrist and then let go. But if my kid would do something he would be suppended. My son told me the other day I would just like to snap on them, but then if someone catches him he could get a 1 week out of school. Kids will tell him he's a p**** and so nasty things , really bad things. I could see why things happen in these schools. It's because kids are pushed into it.

Either way if he gets in a fight they will probably suspend him irregardless of wether or not he started the fight. It's an automatic suspension for being involved in a fight no matter what the circumstances are. At least that's the way I was told that it is at my high school. I think that isn't really fair though but supposedly that is the way it is. I was told that by an assistant principal at my school when I was having an issue with some kids at school stealing things from me and threatening to beat me up. I complained about them to the principal and police and that's how I got to talk to them about the whole thing. Luckily I never got beat up or in a fight. I might have gone a little overboard worrying about it though.

you need to get that boy out of there, change his schools or if its necissary homeschool him. politely telling a bully to get out of your face isnt going to do anything exept make the bullying worse.

I am a strong believer in the power of humour and wit which can be learned by reading a book on the topic. Its hard to hate people that make you laugh.

Kids are stupid. I just met a new friend who is deaf and he told me his whole childhood consisted of being made fun of. For being deaf? I told him I didn't understand the "why" behind that. Side story: He told me people think he is rude because he cant always hear them, say, if he is walking away. I told him I understood and that if he didn't hear me, that was why (he wasn't ignoring me). I told him that I find it ironic because, in most cases, people don't hear me anyways. He is deaf and responds to me more then people WITH hearing do

One thing I have found about the vast majority of people is that they cannot resist peer pressure, starting from primary school. They try to be like each other which doesn't get them anywhere. I blended in with the wrong sort of people (i.e. those who did silly things in the playground, such as blowing raspberries or sticking their middle fingers up at others, and spoke in colloquialisms and ridiculously informal vocabulary, such as the words "ain't", "snog" and "willy"), and I deeply regret it.
I would have preferred it if I was being myself and on my own rather than to blend in with people.

A lot of people, excluding us most of us Aspies and some other sorts of people who are isolated, don't follow the saying "Better to be hated for the person who you are, rather than to be loved for the person who you are not."

I feel sorry for your son, he seems to be going through a lot at the moment. I found it very hard to understand why people made fun of me in Years 7, 8 and 9. I found that ignoring the bullies' crap or laughing at myself slightly when they commented to me stopped the bullying. The reason they bullied me is because I took things so seriously, and I had (and still have) a very developed, mature, serious and very scholarly attitude towards life.

Is he on his own at school? That may encourage bullying.

Possible solution: if you see that bully's parents at any time (for example at a parent's evening or a lecture), tell them clearly that their child is bullying your son. If they deny it, I would probably recommend calling the police if the violence continues. The incident in basketball is assault, and if the school does nothing about it then I would consider legal action.

You don't necessarily have to take my advice, as I am no bullying expert and I may have a problem coming up with solutions.

Let him go to the court and file a complainty of harrasment against whoever is harrassing him.

If i was you,i would either:

Go to the court,or

Let him beat up his oppressors.

There's anti-bullying laws now, and I think most schools take it quite seriously. It would probably be hard to actually prosecute though, as I imagine the burden of proof would be fairly high.

let him get suspended, it's just high school anyways.