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Joe90
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01 Apr 2014, 7:57 am

Nobody likes being laughed at to their face. I have been laughed at when I wasn't even doing or saying anything, just was standing there minding my own business, and these random girls that stood near suddenly started standing right up close to me then going back and grinning at one another then staring back at me and smirking in a nasty way. Whatever I was doing must have been really really bad, because they even kept on turning round to look at me as they were walking away. By then they had got my curious attention, and I became self-conscious and upset. I always go out looking presentable enough to blend in (I know what looks stylish and what doesn't because I'm always looking in magazines and also at other girls of my age to see what they're wearing), and I never behave in an unusual way that attracts that sort of attention. I may sometimes look a little nervous but it doesn't really show up that bad. I don't flap my hands about or ring my hands or display other vigorous mannerisms. I don't think my posture is that bad either, and I have asked close NT friends or relative about what they think when they see somebody with an odd posture, and they just said they think nothing or even if they did it's not anything to laugh about, as it's not that funny. So I don't know what it is with some people. I bet those girls who laughed at me wouldn't want anyone laughing at them. I'd thought girls would know better with this sort of thing, as everybody knows that girls are the most self-conscious about their appearances and the last thing they want is to experience being laughed at. And even if I am that funny, why can't they just move away or wait until I have moved away and then laugh at me, if they both found me funny then they'll both know who they're laughing about, and then I will never know. It's better than laughing right to my face and making it obvious. It's a form of bullying.


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01 Apr 2014, 11:00 am

Sounds like they were just bullies, Joe90. They were being deliberately mean, whereas the kind of laughter I was mentioning seems more like an involuntary reaction to impoliteness. Both are upsetting.


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04 Apr 2014, 7:00 am

Erwin wrote:
Rishikesh wrote:
Erwin wrote:
Rishikesh wrote:
onewithstrange wrote:
From the replies, the best course looks like just taking note of what I was doing and simply don't do that again.

You will do that again if you don't understand what you did wrong.

He did nothing wrong. You are all normal.


Please define 'wrong' and 'normal'.

Wrong - what we were made to be able to feel as wrong
Normal - common, ordinary, intended. What I meant was that aspergers are researched but they forgot to compare them to normal åeople. Being in this forum, I know the exact reason for every listed problem here. Mainly because normal people have the same asperger symptoms. Funny that.


Erwin,

"What we were made to be able to feel as wrong" differs from culture to culture and from one person to another as well. (For example I didn't feel wrong writing the word "wrong", but you did feel that and corrected me.) So this definition is a bit vague.

I took a look at the dictionary: http://www.thefreedictionary.com/wrong.
My assumption is that you corrected me meaning "wrong" as "6. Not functioning properly; out of order" applied to onewithstrange, something like that.
My "wrong" was "4. Not fitting or suitable; inappropriate or improper: said the wrong thing."

As for the "normal - common, ordinary", people with AS make about 1% of the population. Not exactly common, that is.

Sorry, I don't exactly understand what you mean by 'ASs were not compared to NTs (all I have read about AS was based on comparison), and that NTs have AS (what might that mean?)'.



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04 Apr 2014, 12:02 pm

I still make people laugh and I never assume I am being laughed at.


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04 Apr 2014, 3:02 pm

Rishikesh wrote:
Erwin wrote:
Rishikesh wrote:
Erwin wrote:
Rishikesh wrote:
onewithstrange wrote:
From the replies, the best course looks like just taking note of what I was doing and simply don't do that again.

You will do that again if you don't understand what you did wrong.

He did nothing wrong. You are all normal.


Please define 'wrong' and 'normal'.

Wrong - what we were made to be able to feel as wrong
Normal - common, ordinary, intended. What I meant was that aspergers are researched but they forgot to compare them to normal åeople. Being in this forum, I know the exact reason for every listed problem here. Mainly because normal people have the same asperger symptoms. Funny that.


Erwin,

"What we were made to be able to feel as wrong" differs from culture to culture and from one person to another as well. (For example I didn't feel wrong writing the word "wrong", but you did feel that and corrected me.) So this definition is a bit vague.

I took a look at the dictionary: http://www.thefreedictionary.com/wrong.
My assumption is that you corrected me meaning "wrong" as "6. Not functioning properly; out of order" applied to onewithstrange, something like that.
My "wrong" was "4. Not fitting or suitable; inappropriate or improper: said the wrong thing."

As for the "normal - common, ordinary", people with AS make about 1% of the population. Not exactly common, that is.

Sorry, I don't exactly understand what you mean by 'ASs were not compared to NTs (all I have read about AS was based on comparison), and that NTs have AS (what might that mean?)'.

"Wrong" does not depend on culture. Natural morals are the same for every human and if you don't see that, maybe you should research with more faith in people instead of making up your mind from the smart. I infact quite like those morals. Anyway, it doesn't matter if aspergers is thought to exist or not because if it doesn't, it'll begin to show itself soon. It's all good as long as it doesn't hurt people. But the reason it was ever made up was to SPECIFICALLY hurt people. I even think they made it so people like me would inevitably be included. A pretty impressive plan, I must say. Demoralizing people like me is even more important than demoralizing ordinary people. It's not nice though. It's not nice. So, for example, my normal classmates were not at all as socially adept as normal people are supposed to be according to these forums. Same applies for every other normal person I've met. Exactly the same issues as the people on this forum, same solutions etc. I also don't use gestures when I'm nervous so aside from the fact that normal people tend not to...seriously, why is that even counted as an asperger trait? What age do we live in? We should know this ten times over by now. Lack of self-esteem is what causes these traits generally. Pretty much what I mean by researching normal humans. Anyway, knowing human psychology is step 1 towards a perfect world, (which we actually found a formula to this way) yet they don't try to discover anything new at all. They're so sure of this old knowledge they have that they won't be open to anything new. They don't even try.