Unrequited friendships

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Right now, I'm really in interested in this girl on facebook whom is a friend of a friend. She has yet to talk to me or reply, but I tried adding her to my friends list with no response so far. Her mother, however, was nice enough to add me; and I told her, if you want to talk to me, go ahead, I'm not that hard to find. I really wish this friend of a friend could talk to me, I'm very open about myself! I just wish she could talk to me........ it's an unrequited friendship. What's a guy to do? I mean, I don't mean to come across as too intrusive and stalker-ish. Does anybody else feel this way, and what advice do you have for me?

The Squid feels this heavy burden in your heart. One must remember that some human organisms don't check the facebook daily. Some, when they do, do not watch alerts. This situation is within the realm of "bad circumstances" and the Squid suggests you read it as such, until other evidence to the contrary comes to light. Have you tried bribing this girl with turnips? Anyway, give it some time. We highly doubt this girl is ignoring you specifically, unless she has reason to.

^ Yeah. I hope she can get to talk to me sometime.

Anybody in the same boat as me?

Who knows why people decline to be friends with someone, especially someone who doesn't know you and presumably has nothing to base a rejection on. But if it helps, I've sent friend requests to people and then talked to them weeks later and they had no recollection of getting a request. They asked me to send it again, and they answered readily. So you never know...maybe this person hasn't seen the request yet, or possibly it never went through to begin with. FB is buggy like that sometimes. I can't remember if there's a way to recall a request, but if so, I'd try it and then resend the request. Couldn't hurt and it might help.

Sort of, but mine is more general. I know several people who I consider friends (both IRL and online), and when we talk/chat/post they always seem to be glad to hear from me and point out how "we need to do this more often". But yet not one of them EVER initiates any contact with me. And when I suggest an activity that we could do together -- and this goes for any activity (movies, sporting events, new restaurants, volunteer opportunities) and any person -- they hem-haw around until it's too late for them to participate. And the conversations invariably include a mention by them of something fun they did with someone else that I wasn't included in. So, my question is -- Are these people friends or not? I say NO, because friends should be there for each other. But the little bit of contact I get from them -- usually on a quarterly basis for most of them -- keeps me from feeling totally isolated and alone. So I can't quite bring myself to break contact completely.

Well. You can ask your friend to help you meet this girl by him/her going to hang out with this girl and then bringing you along thus establishing proximity and allowing you to talk to and approach her. Face to face is so much more reliable than technology because it can make it harder to snub people especially if you?re in front of mutual friends.

And yes I have felt this way. Be prepared for that she is simply not interested in you. But good luck and don't necessarily take it as a personal affront. One comforting fact I have learned about social interaction is that there is only so many friends someone can make use of. Lets theoretically say someone has 10 friends and that's all they can make use of in their life then it doesn't matter if someone new is good or bad there is simply no place in their life for you. What I'm trying to say is that one reason why someone may not wish to be your friend is not because they don't like you but rather because they don't need you because their social life is already as full as they want. I know that I have been rejected before because a female simply had no place in her life for me. On the other hand those who do have a place open are much more open to pursuing others and establishing connections with them.

Well, I kinda have moved on from this girl in favor of a wonderful young woman I befriended over the Memorial Day holiday.