Would this be considered "stalkerish"?

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What if you and a person both belonged to a club, activity etc, that ran from Monday to Friday, and they asked you what days you were gonna be there, and they showed up on whatever days that you come. Theres an autistic guy I know that I'm friends with who does this, but I don't know if this is normal or stalkerish? Could someone help me please?

not stalkerish, but the person obviously enjoys your company. if you're not comfortable with that, you need to let the person know. if they continue to show up only on days you're there after you say your piece, that would be stalkerish.

I agree.

I don't think it's stalkerish because he's operating within the parameters of social expectations. It would be one step closer if say he followed you to another club or tried to meet you outside of school without your knowledge or agreement.

I wouldn't call that stalkerish, unless he's constantly following you around or seeking your attention. It could be that he feels a little uncomfortable going to the group on his own, but having you there makes it more comfortable for him. If this is the case (it may not be though) the thing to do would be to introduce him to other friends you know in the group - that could be a great help to him.

btw I was that guy and I was chasing after you I would make sure to a) occasionally not come when you're there and b) occasionally come when you're not there. So that way it would look more of a co-incidence that you and I were both there quite often.

I'm in a situation where there's a lady at a local hobby/interest thing, whom I really like- though I've not had the opportunity yet to talk to her a lot. I've not yet determined whether she'd be interested in reciprocation.

I would say, if you get an uncomfortable vibe off this guy, and you don't like what he's doing now, then let him know he should stop it.
If you think he's all right and not creepy, then there's the opportunity to talk to him a bit more and get to know him, if you are likewise interested (platonically or otherwise).

In your situation, I would be more likely to interpret his behaviour as somewhat stalkerish, but that's also because I'm not quick to trust most people to begin with. Swarming around me to spend time with me is usually a no-no.

what if he just goes every day, would be hard to know if he shows up when shes not there.

seems most people recommend this idea when people as how to meet women/guys though.

go to their activities etc.

Nothing wrong with "going to their activities." Just find common ground. That's the best way to approach it.

I don't think so, no. Because he specifically asked, meets are public, and the whole point of them is to see people there.

Stalkerish would be like the guy who followed women employees around the store I used to work at until management had to step in. Uninvited, not the purpose of the store, interfering with other people's business, no way to get away from him since he's a customer and you couldn't just tell a customer to f off, etc.