Why does this happen?

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If you have aspergers and you have an arrested level of maturity. More to the point why is that as your peers reach 25 years and mature they become less and less tolerant of the way you behave and act? Less tolerant i mean in comparison to how they treated when they were aged 19.

Because they become more concerned with what being an "adult" really means--sadly, many of them get it wrong.

Being social butterflies, following the "life script" of marriage, family, etc., leaving behind interests from "childhood" according to what society says...you know, the whole litany of "have tos", "musts" and "shoulds" that many of us don't subscribe to. Therefore, they look down on us and don't want to be associated with us, because we don't follow the crowd.

The part they "get wrong" is associating adulthood with self-destructive behaviors such as partying too much, being overly concerned with what others think of them (which isn't really all that different from high school, come to think of it) and forgetting what it is to enjoy life according to what you might want from the "inside" if it does not align with what everyone else says you SHOULD "want."

Or something. I may not be explaining this very well.

^Thank you!

I get the impression that many folk never grow beyond the frame of reference they developed in high school/junior college.