krackatoa wrote:
Am I mistaken that they are close friends? Because they are all the friends I have. None of them buy me gifts and I go out of my way to buy them nice ones.
I adopted a gift policy many years ago from (I believe) Miss Manners. The policy is this: If a family member or friend fails to reciprocate in gift giving, especially if they have received a gift from me, they might have financial reasons for their failings. It would be rude to ask why, so it is best to reduce my gift giving to the individual by sharing a greeting card only in the next year, and nothing the year after that. Maybe the individual can no longer afford gifts for others. My continuing to give gifts under that scenario might continue the embarassment that the individual might feel. Or, if the individual doesn't share gift giving with me because the individual is angry with me or disdains my choice of gift, my sharing of a gift might only prolong the anger.
This policy has the benefit of curtailing the feeling of being left out of reciprocal gift giving; at least after a year or two. If the individual suddenly resumes sharing gifts with me, I am happy to do the same.
I use this policy at Christmas and birthdays. I haven't been asked why I do this by those with whom I have done so, so there might be something to the logic. However, I remain as inclusive and friendly to the individual(s) as ever.