I called my friend and he hung up

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I called my friend once and he said hello but I didn't say hello back because I was nervous. I then called again approximately 30 minutes later and he said hello, then I said "hello, who is this?" and he hung up after a brief pause.

Should I call back? How should I take this?

Do you have his email address?

If so, just write him an email.

Or try to call him again. This time, though, say what's on your mind after exchanging pleasantries like "How are you doing?"

I think he'll believe that you tried pranking him if you don't tell him you didn't.

Might be good to prepare for calling again and saying that you didn't try to prank him but couldn't say anything because you inexplicably got nervous. It's probably good to apologize for having given the wrong impression (even though there's really nothing to apologize for, just so he knows for sure it was not intended a prank).
And then talk about whatever you wanted to talk about.

At least that's what I'd do, but I can be wrong. Maybe kraftie's suggestion is better.

I think your suggestion is pretty good, too.

Can you speak calmly on voice mail?

It can help to have a mindset of "I'm doing this, no matter what".
(Of course that doesn't mean to call when you feel the least ready)

Is he into math, too?

If you send him something over email which would interest him, I think he would appreciate it.

He doesn't check his E-mail often apparently.

I called again and there was no response.

Does your friend have your number? Or did he not know it was you calling? Maybe you should explain/apologize. I'm guessing that since you didn't say anything the first time he thought it was a mistake so he hung up, but the second time you called him and asked who is this? sometimes that bothers people because it's kind of that idea of-- you called me you should know who you're talking to.

Overall I wouldn't worry it just sounds like a misunderstanding. I would just explain that you called and didn't know what to say.

You're just going to worry yourself sick about calling. Set some type of alarm for a few days from now and go on about your life and forget about it. When the alarm goes off just go and make the call without thinking about it and say who you are first. He may already know it's you with caller ID. Does he know you're Aspie? If so, he should be ok with you having a problem talking on the phone sometimes. I find for myself if I just do whatever it is I don't want to do without thinking about it and rehearsing, things don't end up being as bad as what I conjured up in my mind. But I'm not Aspie.

^ Yes, I second this. Wait a few days. Are you going to run into him naturally? Like in real life?

I would honestly say something like, "Sorry I had peanut butter in my mouth" or "Sorry I couldn't hear you" and then immediately go into whatever you were calling about in the first place. It won't be a big deal if you don't make it a big deal.

Yes, you could explain that you're an aspie if you're good friends with this kid. As in, if you've known him for years, or if you're sure he understands what autism is. If you don't know him very well, I wouldn't tell him, only because that's personal. It would be like telling him how much money your parents make.