Why are people so hard to understand at times?

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Last year, a member on this site (I won't name names) who I befriended the year before had some major problems in her life. I just wish I could help her somehow, but she defriended me on Facebook. I've moved on from her, largely, but I want to find some way to help her out in her life, you know? What am I to do? I think the fact that she betrayed me is her problem, just like another member I befriended on this site (again, not naming names). I've also had many people block me on Facebook for no good reason, despite the fact I did NOTHING wrong to them per se. That's their problem, IMO, not mine, that they acted that way towards me.

I would like to say that I have met this one girl who is married at another anime con I've gone to these past few years, and autistic like myself; I tried to add her on Facebook, but refused to follow up or communicate with me for some unearthly reason, so I blocked her. Extreme a move as it may be, but if anybody is going to be like that towards me, that's their loss for not being social. I just wonder sometimes why humans cannot communicate clearly at times....

And please, do not post trolling messages on this thread; only serious thoughts, and some words of encouragement are allowed.

I've given up trying to grok anybody but myself, so much more peaceful that way.

Because people really don't understand Wolfmen.

Understanding Wolfmen is essential if you want to understand people.

^^^indubitably.

Has anybody ever had a friend block you for no good reason, like what I said in my opening post? I'd like to hear from ya.

yup.

If somebody wants to block me, I just feel like they are missing out on something.

They're missing out on the Delights of the Wolfman!

I don't get blocked because I'm hardly on Facebook.

I had to block somebody on FB when they became abusive to me.

I don't use Facebook. But people are hard to understand. The only thing that I can think of is that you are doing something to irritate them and they don't want to tell you directly. It could be as simple as messaging them too often. Or perhaps sending them too many game requests. Or maybe their boyfriends don't like you speaking to them. Maybe they are just not very social in general and talking to you is too much work.

If I knew you, I would tell you if you were doing something wrong. But I don't, so I can only guess.

Lots of people I'm sure have to deal with this sort of thing. If I bothered to actually talk to people, probably plenty of them would be trying to avoid me for whatever reason.

Like I stated, I had to block a few people on Facebook who were like me and never followed up on talking to me. Life sometimes sucks....

You need to be more specific on what happened between you and the friends who 'betrayed' you. I can't glean much information or post any serious thoughts without it.

That being said, this has happened to me multiple times and I'm not a very peaceful type of person. I always get to the root of the problem and find out what happened. Sometimes it was me, sometimes it was a plethora of things. I personally can count on one hand how many friends I've cast off because I'm an extremely forgiving person, too and I don't make friends with people I would ever consider to turn out to be sh***y. Either way, friendships sometimes just don't work out.

^^^welcome to WP

i k now that in my experience, sometimes people are just too different to me, or in too different of a place in life for me to get a whole lot out of trying to connect with them.
fortunately this is only a few people, and i hope i don't come across like an ass that way.

i don't recall ever blocking anyone on Fb from game requests but merely unfriending them. said people rarely ever made actual posts, it seemed like.

i think anime con girl is just acting the way post people, nt or not, would act...they might be happy boosting their ego with another FB friend...but she might have gotten to know you well enough to bother to talk to you. chances are she has plenty of other friends already.

i know for me, that assumption of other people being too comfortable in their friend status quo discouraged me from bothering to talk to them.

maybe some people are just too sensitive and worried about making you "feel bad" to tell you you're bothering them and then they just block you without a word.
to that i say, bull, i would like to know why i'm being blocked and leaving me guessing is worse. (like the guy who blocked me because of the dumb comments i made on his oral sex posts but to be fair we were both high school freshmen..)

i "friended" a girl from here on google plus a while back and was in regular PM correspondence until she suddenly vanished.

hm.

Long term connections are not easy. Though I know a few people with deep connections I am not one.

I find similar personalities on another specific group on line I frequent. It also has post from people around the world.

Trying to understand peoples behavior is usually over ridden by other things like---why is the knife wood block holder that I usually use almost empty. (While the other one further away/2 inches is now full)

Your probably thinking what my wife's face looked like when I asked her.. But I digress
Learning that other peoples choices are a reflection of them came slowly to this "Reader and Righter"
Feel the hurt and go to the well that is available. (WP is one )

I've had an Aspie Facebook friend who blocked me just because I was talking to one of his friends on Facebook.

I had a co-worker unfriend me when he resigned work, even though he still has everybody else from work on his friends list, even though they don't really talk to him on Facebook.

The worst thing about Facebook is the amount of rejections I get when sending a friend request to friends of friends. Some people have over 300 Facebook friends, and they can't know them ALL personally, most probably just friends of friends.
Also I've often got rejected from a friend request of friends at work, and I speak to them a lot at work, and they have everybody else from work on their friends list, even people they barely know at work.