Why do we abuse trust?

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I am (no longer) perplexed by how it can be that people nowadays, in an age of communication technology as never seen before, can feel so disconnected from one another; feel lonely as if there is no one to talk to - and I'm not talking about a minority here; I believe the way people have structured their values lead them to almost always fail to integrate adequate behaviour when confronted with failure. There seems to be a problem with how people deal with trust, or perhaps lack thereof in one another; and it seems to me that, that the bigger the social environment or group one intends to communicate with, the more the individual is inclined to isolate himself while desperately trying to come up with something "interesting" to the peer or group in an attempt to have some form of social interaction rather than none. I believe anxiety to be the cause of the individual's perception of trust - one's accumulated exposure to the cynical behaviour of others, abusing ones trust whenever given the opportunity shocks one's belief in this value; when, then one asks himself how such catastrophic results could be prevented, one will most certainly come to the conclusion it is better to trust no one rather than everyone. How is it that we all, at least in some point in our lives, seem to have this tendency to foolishly and cynically abuse another persons trust ? When I do talk to humans I do it in a different manner now: If they don't come up with something they are interested in I usually ask who they are (and no, this is not your name, your appereance or anything alike) and how they feel, followed by a long period of listening. It feels like I like talking to people about their untold failures and perception thereof, their fears and their (in some cases) hopelesness; none of which they deemed worthy to communicate, which leads back to why that is: why there was nobody they could trust (sometimes not even their parents).
By the way: As I am not a native speaker, I'd also welcome any criticism towards my writing since I good writing.

Abusing someone’s trust is fundamentally wrong. I can’t think of an incident where I have done that, If I ever have, I would have felt so angry at myself.

I trust absolutely no one, which is a characteristic of borderline personality disorder, but I find it’s safer that way, even if it means more people hate you for constantly being on guard.

And my hypothesis is that most people don't really trust anyone; that there are similarities in the way we all grow up chiefly independent from our predispositions, giving rise to our mutual detachment from trust.