Do you wish you could wear a sign that says "I have AS"?

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KikiKitty678
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16 Aug 2019, 1:05 pm

Disclosing can be uncomfortable, but having people misinterpret your social mistakes is even worse. There's no way to win.



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16 Aug 2019, 1:22 pm

No, most people wouldn't understand what to do. It would just confuse them.



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16 Aug 2019, 2:14 pm

It would be nice to wear a badge with a symbol and identify other people on the spectrum.



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16 Aug 2019, 2:22 pm

Absolutely not! If there is another excuse for people to try screwing me over, I sure don't want to wear it like a banner.

And if Aspies could identify one another through a secret badge--I don't even know if I would want that. We differ so much in opinion, beliefs, and creeds, and I don't know if I want to hear about their special interest or they want to hear about mine.

At home I used to use an old black phone without caller ID (Northern Electric No.1, designed by Henry Dreyfuss) and it is nice to have that element of surprise in human interaction. It's easier to be polite if you don't know...is it that insurance scammer or your mother on the line?

So no, I don't think the sign would be a good idea.


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16 Aug 2019, 2:38 pm

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16 Aug 2019, 2:45 pm

Is this just a hypothetical question? I do not see any benefit from wearing such a sign.


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16 Aug 2019, 2:45 pm

No, I don't think I would like that at all.


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16 Aug 2019, 2:48 pm

I wouldn't, mostly because I would grow tired of constantly having to explain what it meant. There's no reason a person couldn't wear a badge or button that said that though.



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16 Aug 2019, 2:52 pm

KikiKitty678 wrote:
Do you wish you could wear a sign that says "I have AS"?
Do you wish you could wear a sign that says, "Abuse Me"?

The results would be the same.


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16 Aug 2019, 2:53 pm

I think it is useful in many situations. As i am very high functioning, but suffer from sensory sensitivity as well as high levels of anxiety (often comes with ASD but especially hypersensitive ASD).

The label would make people aware, however it wouldn't educate them.
As a great deal of people who i have recently have had to deal with remain as clueless as the day that they
heard the condition exists.

Some people either aren't very good at taking the info in, or they simply don't care. So don't bother, even if it is their job to deal with people with the condition on a daily basis.

I think it is very ignorant, for example some one who works in supporting people with ASD in housing
do not know their bum from their elbow when it comes to ASD and hypersensitivity, results in the ASD sufferer
being discriminated against and being treated as a trouble maker for asking for specialist provisions due to sound pollution.

All very upsetting.
Yup. but nevermind.



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16 Aug 2019, 3:31 pm

I don't wish that at all. I'm too gullible and naive and the sign would only allow those who like to take advantage of people to find me easily.

Many people don't understand autism so explaining it would be annoying and also the many assumptions people will come up with would be annoying too.

I have other reasons but I don't want to go on and on.


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16 Aug 2019, 4:39 pm

I can't think of anything more humiliating and dehumanising. I don't understand this trend whereby everybody has to disclose everything about himself to complete strangers with t-shirts and tattoos; where did people's depth of character go?



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16 Aug 2019, 4:42 pm

No thanks! I'd only want trusted, thoughtful friends/relatives receptive to understanding HFA to know - hence, signs are unnecessary.

The main concern here is finding, becoming acquainted with, and keeping quality people in the first place - all too elusive, and too often by "chance and accident!"



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16 Aug 2019, 5:52 pm

I have no interest in broadcasting my ASD to the whole world. It wouldn't stop the inconsiderate stares I get in public.


Actually, I've just realised something. If a wore a badge saying I'm on the spectrum, I might then look more 'normal' (although I already do, but I mean normal enough not to get stares), because the badge would seemingly look exaggerating to others, therefore making me appear 100% neurotypical. It's like a social optical illusion effect. Only thing is, people will think I'm being fake, which I'm not because unfortunately I do genuinely have an ASD, but they don't know that. They might think I'm wearing it to just get sympathy or attention.


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16 Aug 2019, 9:30 pm

No, because precious lil "people" believe that they know all about autism, but just misconception



If you want to wear a sign, you can do so


Nobody is telling you not to wear a sign

It is not necessary to "wish"


Someone might misinterpret the sign


Someone might treat you worse than they otherwise would have


Disrespectful, rude, mean,


Whatever



But nobody is going to tell you to take off the sign



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22 Aug 2019, 10:46 pm

I wish I had a sign that said "chill out".