How to get on with Neurotypicals

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"Ppl" are simply tribalistic naked apes.
Many are more than happy to form groups that discriminate against other "competitors".
"Nature of the beast."
What can you do?

What a strange world humans have made for ourselves, where everyone has to play a part instead of being themselves.

Yes, and it's exaggerated now due to the information tidal wave and the internet isn't it. Tribes are becoming more vocal as there are so many billions of humans now. I've read that prehistoric tribes got on better because they rarely saw each other and so didn't fight over territory! The fewer humans there are, the better...it seems.

Humanity will no doubt be extinct in a billion years.

Sorry if I've posted a similar thread before, I hope I haven't.

I’ve started this thread, mainly for myself so I can put all my observations in one place. Feel free to add to it! Sorry if these points are blatantly obvious, I just hope it helps some people, including myself.

• When talking with NTs, don’t listen carefully and respond to every point they make. Don’t ask them to explain what they mean. Just say ‘uh huh’ and carry on with what you want to say. They don’t like to be questioned and have everything they say responded to. A good conversation with them would be where you are talking at a tangent to them, partially related but not the same. Use a lot of ‘I think’ ‘I am’ ‘I believe’ statements. This is the opposite to the advice given by 'Communication Experts', because their advice doesn't work for autists.

• I've come to learn that NTs prioritise WHO is giving the advice or message, over WHAT the advice or message is. You can give the most sensible advice in the world but NTs won't listen if they don't like you or trust you or know you. They don't prioritise WHAT is actually in the message, they prioritise WHO the person is giving it. That's why very popular people can say ridiculous nonsense and it's slavishly followed. Whereas unpopular people like myself can give the most sensible and accurate advice and guidance, and it's completely ignored. This is the opposite of autists because we prioritise the actual message not the person giving it. I wonder if this is the core reason why autists and non-autists can't communicate: we prioritise the substance of the message and they prioritise who is giving the message.

Honestly, I think it's got absolutely nothing to do with autism so much as it does with confidence and authority. And unfortunately, much of the natural autistic body language screams anything but confidence and authority to NT folks. Granted, I'm not neurotypical, but I've literally played one on TV multiple times.

In all seriousness though, I do think a lot of it comes down to confidence and track record. People usually listen to me because I speak with confidence, refuse to repeat myself if somebody wasn't listening, and am usually on the right side of whatever is going on.

Then again, I mask like I've never masked before when I really need it to go through as my Rainman impression seems to instill a ton of mistrust in what I'm saying.

And some people are just so bought into whatever fool thing they're doing that there's not much you can do then just let them blow up whatever they're doing, then keep your mouth shut because nobody likes being told that you knew that was going to happen.

Honestly, I think it's got absolutely nothing to do with autism so much as it does with confidence and authority. And unfortunately, much of the natural autistic body language screams anything but confidence and authority to NT folks. Granted, I'm not neurotypical, but I've literally played one on TV multiple times.

And some people are just so bought into whatever fool thing they're doing that there's not much you can do then just let them blow up whatever they're doing, then keep your mouth shut because nobody likes being told that you knew that was going to happen.

I've given up on NT's this year.

They always love me at first, drama class and all those hours have made me a master at interacting with them, in small doses.

If they need something from me they'll put up with me because I have value to them, eventually they do an equation and realize I annoy them more than my value and I stop hearing from them.

I spent years and years trying to build social groups and have consistent friends but it's simply never worked out.

I'm 3 months into Isolation from Neurotypicald and it's been a world of difference in my mental health.

They are truly just not like me and any interaction with them is both mentally exhausting and honestly boring...

It's been lovely reading the posts here guys, feels like when I discovered autism tiktok and found out there were so many people like me none of us go outside much is all

That is so well put and sums me up too! Exactly, 100%. I am just not like NTs in any way. Chalk and cheese.

I do think NTs are getting worse though. The extreme capitalism of the West, plus the internet/information overload 24/7, media telling them what people 'should' be like and the polarisation of people into 'them' and 'us', are making them more narrow minded. They expect everyone to be perfect 24/7, they value money and individualism rather than people and community.

NTs and NDs are heading in different directions.

Yes...I'm a bit too old to play along with people 24/7 now. I've made a list of rules that might help me get by but I'll see how it goes. It's good that every post I make on WP helps me come to a conclusion.

It's quite reassuring that even NTs don't have it all their own way and sail through life though. What a strange world humans have made for ourselves, where everyone has to play a part instead of being themselves.

I've given up on NT's this year.

They always love me at first, drama class and all those hours have made me a master at interacting with them, in small doses.

If they need something from me they'll put up with me because I have value to them, eventually they do an equation and realize I annoy them more than my value and I stop hearing from them.

I spent years and years trying to build social groups and have consistent friends but it's simply never worked out.

I'm 3 months into Isolation from Neurotypicald and it's been a world of difference in my mental health.

They are truly just not like me and any interaction with them is both mentally exhausting and honestly boring...

It's been lovely reading the posts here guys, feels like when I discovered autism tiktok and found out there were so many people like me none of us go outside much is all

I happen to like most neurotypical people as I like most all people. Living in a world where it us versus them is a poor use of psychic energy. Envy is a deadly sin.

I get what you mean when you say you feel they are changing. Social media has amplified their ability to be fake with each other the entire idea of clout is just insane to me.

Imagine living your life to relieve all your validation externally what a horrifying existence...

Chalk and cheese 100%

At a certain point I had to really ask myself, why do I even want attention from these people when literally almost every interaction for my entire life with them has been negative in some way or physically and mentally draining.

I'm 3 months into Isolation from Neurotypicald and it's been a world of difference in my mental health.
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