Is she angry?

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I texted some older friends of mine who are regular saturday drinkers today to say i will meet them at the pub. I did say to that i will hang out with them for an hour or 2 then go to another pub watch euros with some different mates

"The lady then texted me saying"Hi James that's ok enjoy your day but me & Steve we will stay at home today sorry."


I asked her why she is staying home and she replied "We just want to ok"


Do you think she comes across as annoyed in that message judging by her wording? She is 61 and her boyfriene 52

My vote is no. She doesn't sound angry or annoyed to me.

I think she probably just fancied staying at home with her boyfriend. People don't always feel like going out. Maybe she just wanted to relax at home.

Perhaps she was slightly irked when asked to further specify her reasoning for staying in. Since you may have unintentionally come across as a little insistent. You were simply curious to know the exact reason, but this may have come across to her as an insistence for the plan to go ahead. Perhaps she worried that there would be further questions and that you would try to convince her to come out anyway. Not that I'm saying you would, but it's possible that was on her mind.

When people cancel plans on me and say that they are staying home, I usually figure that they're just not feeling in the mood to go out and I don't pry for further information. Generally if something has happened, people will tell me in their own time.

I think the expected response to 'I'm staying in' is 'OK. No worries. Speak to you later' or something like that.

Try asking some of your other friends instead. She just wants a quiet time with her partner.

Barring something pretty significant, I'd just take it at face value, Now, if this starts to become a regular thing, or if something out of the ordinary happened last time, I'd consider asking.

nope, she was just being polite, telling you that they already had other plans. All good, just they are doing something else.

I think the “ok” at the end of the message makes her sound a bit annoyed.
I think people use it as shorthand for “do ya have a problem with that??”

It’s not a big deal though, if they are your friends it’s probably just banter and they don’t really mind much.

I don't think she's angry at all.