A gender issue

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Oh - well, if we are including cats - I don't need people at all then!

I get along better with Dogs than I do people of any Gender. Woof!

I get along better with guys, or guys get along better with me, or something. I'm sexed and genedered female and am heterosexual, but nevertheless am regarded by my friends as a "great guy." ((I can see the humor in that at least.)) I AM masculine for a female, insofar as my thinking style (for example, if I hear a problem, my first instinct is to fix it if I can, not to merely commisserate). The vast majority of my friends are male.

Oh, and yes, cats rock.

Ah...it is a bit complicated for me.

I have been bullied,teased,abused,and rejected by members of both genders where it got to the point where I hated girls and became afraid of boys.When I was ages 8-11 I got along better with boys,even though I got beaten up really bad by some of the bigger boys,but after what happened to me at age 12,I became VERY scared of boys.

I hated girls with a passion,because as long as I can remember I have been phyisically and verbally abused and rejected by them.My girlfriend used to touch me all the time when I was 14,and my dislike of fmeales grew.

But since I ahve dated and fallen in love with members of both genders I consider myself to be bisexual.

Wierd,huh?

-SpaceCase

Well, I dont' know much about what I think myself. In my old high school, most of my friends were girls (I think. Several were boys, but more were girls.) and then when I transfered schools, I found out most of my friends were boys and I only had one official friend that was a girl. That was in the 9th grade. Now that I'm in the 10th grade, when it comes to that matter, the amount of my friends that are boys or girls are even.

(and I understand about not having a gender mentally, I know the feeling. Although about whether thinking more like a male or female, as for me, it kind of swithches back and forth.)

I was viciously bullied and 90% of it was from females, so to this day I am extremely on edge around women, especially groups of women. I guess on a case by case basis I can try to befriend people regardless of gender, not that it's all that easy to befriend either one. I do find it easier to talk to men, mostly because of the reason I stated in the first sentence.

I used to find it easier to be friends with males than females. But now days now that im older it problery easier to be friends with females. But then again it does depend on the indivual.
I find it easier talking to females now only because my phisical looks have improved so much that they try and talk to me almost not matter what social screw up I make. And I don't think I make that many screw ups execpt when getting to know people and my problems with eye contact.

i prefer to have male friends because i can relate to them i and i feel more comfortable. and i dont like hanging around girls much at all because most of them are really girly and i have nothing in common with them. but when it comes ot friends i like people who are open and fun.

Interesting Topic! Well, thinking about it I don't think I have a preference. As a boy who likes sports, I'm pretty sure I've met more guys than gals in my life, but especially in high school most of my 'interesting' conversations where with girls (Interesting as in the not so standard small talk).
The vast majority of them belonged to the not-so-popular kids, but somehow I never let that bother me. That way I became 'the listening ear' for some people, but I learned a lot from who those people where. I 'hooked up' with the popular girls in later years, but that was almost impossible to avoid (not that I wanted to); French Class had 3 boys and 14 girls.

Now at university I have an almost equally mixed group of relations. Aside from students my group of friends consists mostly of males, but that's just because my one true friend only has male friends and girls as.....well, more than friends . They're never that long around or not interesting of to talk with. I'm open to friendships with girls though, if there is the right chemistry.

I found when I was younger that females were more competitive with eachother and it was difficult to form friendships because of that. Guys were easier to talk with because we weren't competing for the same things. Now that I am middle aged (50 y/o) I find that nobody is competing anymore. I can be friendly with people in my own age group regardless of gender. Younger females still pose a problem. They are competing for standing on the job, competing for the attention of men, competing for mother of the year. I just smile and nod.

I have an irrational fear of guys for some reason. I can talk to them online fine, but when we're face to face I can't make eye contact and often feel uncomfortable. There have been very few guys I've actually been comfortable around, and usually they were a little bit younger than me. Needless to say, it is rare for me to have a guy friend and I have never been in a relationship. I wish I knew what I was so afraid of.

I think I'm a lot like many of you. I tend to get along better with guys. It's always been hard for me to make good friends with girls. I do have a few, however, I enjoy talking to guys much more. I think it's due to the fact Misch stated a lot girls are more geared to speak about furniture, new clothes etc. Talk of those topics bores me to tears!! !

I've also had some bad experiences with girls from back in school. They can be very mean spirited. Not all of them but that was part of my experience.
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