Everyone Hates Me

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Hi. I live in a town that is known to be one of the most cliquey and arrogant towns in this area. Pretty much everyone hates me and I haven't had a friend in over a year (all of the nice people moved away). Can anyone help me find a way to make friends. Maybe everyone's just like the people in my town.

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Why would you want to make friends with such a surly bunch?

I have not yet found anyone that meets my expectation of a friend. Socializing is something else. there are interest groups like religious, volunteer, hobby and sports organizations that might put you in touch with like minded souls. This is what I have always done. Stay clear of "mental health" groups, though, because you are treated like an outcast by staff. (not to be confused with Autism and Asperger's Advocacy.)

Are you sure that everyone hates and is in a clique? People around your age theoretically might but thankfully people abandon cliques when they stop being so self absorbed, around say 20 years old. The above person had some good advice.

I don't think everyone hates you. You sound like you're in high school. I was very lonely in high school too.
Find friends through something you are interest in. If music go to a concert. If art take art classes. If photography join a photo club. You get it.

Joining clubs, going to events, etc CAN be good. They are worth a try. People give this kind of advice alot, as if it makes things easy. However, it does not work for everyone.
I joined a music club at my school, and failed to make friends with anyone. They barely notice me at all there, and only approach me if they want my skills or to borrow something. My teacher is nice, and likes alot of the same bands that I do, but the kids tend to ignore me.
At least I gave it a shot, but just because people may be interested in the same things doesn't neccessarily mean that it's going to be easy to make friends. I'm not trying to be negative, because it's not BAD advice. I'm just saying that sometimes, the interest doesn't make much of a difference in the effort required to fit in.
I did have luck in a writing club, once. I never really made friends, but the meet-ups were nice. We drank tea and shared our poems and stories. I think this club worked out better because it wasn't through my school. These were kids from other near-by towns, my grandmother learned about the group from a flyer. I think because we were all new to each other, it was easier to make a good a impression. Maybe try an out-of-school club instead?

Just my two cents.

i think i can speak for everyone who replied to this when i say "we don't hate you" not one bit.. might seem silly, or even patronising & if so i'm sorry..

It might be hard, but try not to think about it. You make friends by random coincidence a lot easier than you'd make friends by actively pursuing them, and they're likely to be truer too. If you're lonely, meet up with groups that share interests of your's. Don't go to make friends. Go because you, as a person, will enjoy it. Isn't that why you came here, after all? And we certainly don't hate you

Perhaps if you have some special interest there is a club or group for that in your town?

I get a lot of my social interaction via the net and with my cats. Pets are great.