true survey for aspie(male or female,who has it easier)

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I really wish there was national level,random represent sample size
survey for people with ASD.Like take 5,000 random
asd men and women across the nation and find
about their love life,their marriage,sexual behavior,
friends,social life,etc.I wish there was one,so we
can all find out who has it ''easier''

edit:I just got my answer

We're all individuals and have our own individual struggles, you can't say one group has it "easier" because the group doesn't define you as an individual.

Neither.

Have a nice day.

It really is not that simple. Consider, for example, if you are a pretty girl. Yes you may have males initiate encounters with you so you didn't have to, and there are times when people are possibly nicer to you, but there are also those times when you get very unwanted encounters which can be very hard to deal with or downright frightening.
I remember once being groped by a creepy fat middle aged man when I was 20, and he would not let me go. My mind fogged and I did not know what to do because he was very strong. Then it occurred to me that there were others in the next room so I threatened to scream, unconvincingly, and I don't know what went through his ugly head while he thought about it, but he finally let me go. I literally could not smile for days, even though I was supposed to for my job at the time. The boss kept me busy around the shop so I would have less contact with customers. This is just one example of the sort of thing that made me stop even trying to look the way girls are supposed to look. The less attention, the better.

I sometimes do actually enjoy social situations, that's true, but other times I am just looking to make it stop. I don't like to pretend to be interested in stupid crap, but don't want to upset anyone, and sometimes laugh at a joke I did not get, and hate the whole thing so much that before long I am just thinking what I could have done differently to avoid this situation in the first place.
That's why these days I rarely go to anything anymore. I like being alone. I love my family, but sometimes just think I am waiting for the day my kids move out and my husband dies. I feel like I can't think or be myself while their distraction in constantly present.

I did not marry my husband because I loved him. I married him because we had a child, and that happened because I was 29 when I had met him and I had never been in any relationship before, and I did want a baby, and he was too thick to be put off by my lack of response. I merely did not resist the process. I have been paying for it ever since. He is very damaged himself and has made my life horrible.

Having said that, being totally alone for so many years was also horrible. Thank god I have my kids, despite everything.

I think the only suitable answer to this question is the answer to many questions asked in Poker (I love Poker). That answer is... It depends...

I will remain unafilliated

I think you're assuming that all Aspies are cut from the same cloth. It's very individual. I'd go as far to say as no two Aspies are ever identical in their lifestyle and behaviour ... that's how individual it is.

Sure you can see some results right here on this forum if you read through topics and posts, but you won't get a correlation of any kind.

Ok,I finally solve who has it ''easier'',male or female aspie,
the answer: neither

''Surveys of single adults with Asperger’s Disorder find that only a small percentage report having any sexual experience''

http://www.bigsiteofamazingfacts.com/ho ... sexuality/

there is a research survey that reports less than 5 percent ever marry. The vast number of social problems would suggest that marriage may not be in the future for some.
http://www.bigsiteofamazingfacts.com/ho ... -marriage/

While many Asperger’s Disorder adults do date, a large percentage has never dated.
http://www.bigsiteofamazingfacts.com/ho ... tionships/

case close....damn Im an elite aspie,yeah.

I've often wondered if men had it harder.

I've mostly just been called, "blonde", for not knowing some social thing that was expected. "Blonde" is a way better word/attitude than most get, I'm sure.

It seems to me that if men are generally less aware of emotions (as a group), then a straight ASD female would have an easier time finding a mate.

I haven't clicked on any of those studies, but I am curious if it was broken down to male/female: who is most likely to marry.




However, as BlackSabre mentioned, socially naive females may be easier to abuse sexually. I'm very happy to have made it out of childhood before it happened to me.

I don't, as such surveys would keep the Gender Binary alive and I feel it's time that it fizzles out. I feel that the entire human population would have it easier if people would just leave each other alone to be as they truly are. I walk around looking like my cuddly male role model did when he was young, because it gives me pleasure and people can't tell my biological gender when I do it. "Hey, look! A Mod! Is it a boy or a girl?!"

Considering the general consensus on forums like Love and Dating I can easily predict the outcome:

Female aspies have it all coming and handed to them on a silver platter, especially when they're not too ugly and aspie males are the sad victims of a horrible society full of mean people who don't just pop out of nowhere into their beds, naked, with huge boobs.