I don't like it when people talk to me about making friends

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Do any of you think it's weird that it makes me uncomfortable when people talk or ask me about making friends? Unless someone knows someone else who wants to be friends with me or they (the speaker of the subject) wants to be friends; I don't feel comfortable talking about that subject unless I start the conversation about making friends. I've just been hurt many times. I don't like it when people approach the conversation of making friends. Do you any of you feel uncomfortable about the same subject when people bring it up? And to add to this subject I don't like going to social groups either.

I'm surprised no one has responded when I ask if other people don't like it when people ask or mention about making friends and not liking it. Very surprised. Can someone please share their experience?

I'm surprised no one has responded when I ask if other people don't like it when people ask or mention about making friends and not liking it. Very surprised. Can someone please share their experience?

I'm at a spot in life where I'm tired of being lonely. A lot of my effort is going to make friends.
What i don't like is when people mention I'm socially isolated because i don't have many friends. i have friends and i care for every one of them. In my view, my amount of friends is no ones business but my own. I get that it can be annoying if someone talks to you about making friends.
sorry it took a while to respond, i didn't see the post.

Am hesitant to say this , unless you have known the person a good long time, and others can vouch for their honesty...
it makes me. very anxious, if someone asks to be friends. It almost feels like a used car dealer that ,you met for the first time saying , "Trust me" as he points you to a car , you dont like . In the first place.

^^ that's totally valid

I don't think it's weird, but I've had pretty terrible experiences with trying to make friends so I'm also not very comfortable with the subject. Through all of elementary school and a bit in both middle and high school I was bullied and every friendship I've ever managed to achieve has either not lasted, only happened because they wanted something from me or both. The longest lasting friendship I've had is with my sibling, likely because we didn't have much choice but to spend most of our lives together, being siblings and all. A few of their friends also call me a friend except we only really hang out when my sibling is also there and they are very much my sibling's friends first.

I find it hard when people try to approach me. I'm always confused and it's I feel resistance from myself. If I could I'd just stay alone, even if I felt lonely.
I don't think I have any friends now, that I could meet in my daily life. There's some people that I messages, but they are far away. I also think my siblings are my only lifelong friends and the few friends I have I met through my siblings.
I always wanted friends and was trying hard to meet them, only to always feel isolated. I feel like giving up now and focus more on the connections I make through a common activity, like art or some volunteer work. I don't expect to be friends after the task is finished.

I don't like it, because the way they bring it up is in way that can be done so easily. That irritates me because that's something I struggle with. I wish it was easy to just 'talk to people '