Zoonic wrote:
I agree that aspies would be more succesful in certain social situations, like dating, if they didn't deny the importance of superficial traits and vanity. It's important to look good and do anything to look as good as possible. That includes living healthy, working out, cosmetic improvements and clothing.
Why do so many aspies deny these things are important but yet whine that people see them as repulsive.
A socially unskilled aspie who looks like sh** will be treated badly. A socially unskilled aspie who looks better than the average NT will have his lack of social skills seen as a cute and quirky trait, almost attractive in many cases.
Superficial handicap is actually the biggest reason why aspies can't date. Ugly NT's, believe it or not, ALSO have that problem. The ugly NT's who do get in relationships have some very special talents like incredible sense of humour, are wealthy or meet partners who have some sort of personality disorder (borderlinish etc) who are drawn to them more for being a bad guy than for their looks, as an example.
Im with you on this. I may have AS but I
do do care about how I look to others and to myself.I don't go overboard with spending money on clothes but im not a tightwad either.I have my look and Im happy with it. I go to the gym and stuff like that. I know AS people that are so gross and have not fashion sense or know what a shower is, but you can say that there are NT people who are the same. No wonder I can relate better to gay people better than disabled.