Nice guys

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Do you think that females (in general) like "nice guys" but just don't want to go out with them? Or do they not like them at all in reality? I think it's not as bad as a lot of guys make it out to be. They seem to think that it means they don't like them at all. Not only not in a romantic/sexual way but not at all. What do you think of this thought? Do you think I'm wrong or right in most cases?

aaah, the human female. they're half the world's population yet few men and probably a minority of women understand them. Don't know how it came down to that but whatever.

Well, from all the times this has been talked about in this forum, I'll try and see what I got out of this topic. Hmm....

Yes, they like nice guys as friends, especially the sensitive ones. No, they are usually not the first ones to be picked as dates, because they can appear to be weak, and lack backbone.

Of course this is very general, and there are many exceptions. But that seems to be the case, with the majority of women.(all women included) That's what I got out of the many threads before this.

Read this

There is this old saying "nice guys finish last".

Young girls might go for the Alpha Male or the "bad boy".

When they get older and wiser they understand that a nice caring man is a lot better than a violent egotistical thug.

Personally I like 'nice guys', I think most women do.

All the married women I know are married to nice guys.

I find 'jerkiness' and a lack of honor and integrity most off putting.

I also think it is quite hard to find a nice guy as a lot of people are not nice but really quite nasty.

I'm described as the nice guy type so in my case, I think we are liked as friends but nothing more then that. So in general, I don't think girls hate us or anything but they just don't find our type to be attractive for some reason.

Edit: Well, I read that article and it certainly makes sense. I still would like to see an article that states why a jerk is better though.

The general rule goes "She'll sleep with the bad boy and marry the nice guy."
Kinda sums it up for the general population.

I can't agree that nice guys finish last. However cowards definately do. Some people who claim themselves to be "nice" are often just timid & avoid conflict at all costs. They begin to believe being a push-over is the nice thing to do.

I know assertive, bold men who are great guys & will always help a friend in need. Nice as can be. Just not in that wimpy & unattractive way.

nice is such a "nice" word lol
what exactly does the OP mean by nice? & what is a "bad boy", some fool with no morals? i'm confused.
i'm nice as in friendly, respectful & honourable (or i try). but i'm quite "militant" &"aggressive" too at times..
am i nice?

Look at the Mills and Boon romance novels.

A young woman is monstered by a nasty alpha male.

At first she hates him but she is swept off her feet by his raw passion and then comes to love him.

The way I see it, most likely nice girls would date nice guys and jerk girls would date jerk guys. I could be wrong, but sometimes it seems like that.