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I break things...
once in a blue moon 23%  23%  [ 11 ]
once a year 17%  17%  [ 8 ]
once a month 21%  21%  [ 10 ]
once a week 21%  21%  [ 10 ]
once a day 6%  6%  [ 3 ]
on the hour, generally speaking. 4%  4%  [ 2 ]
I want to see the results! 6%  6%  [ 3 ]
Total votes : 47

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08 Jun 2009, 11:58 am

My hand-eye coordination is actually pretty amazing, it's one of things that is completely unaffected by autism for me.

That doesn't mean i don't break things, i always "play" with stuff when i'm around friends house's. I've broken computers, computer games, chairs, toasters... the list is endless. Infact, i'm not allowed to touch certain things in certain friend's houses anymore.

I also don't get a sinking feeling, i always offer to pay for what i've broke, it is the simple solution after all. If people don't take me up on it, that's their problem.



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08 Jun 2009, 12:04 pm

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If I remember correctly, both Chuck and Sedaka found that martial arts training improved their coordination. I am sure anything will work that needs coordination, that you enjoy enough to keep doing, and that allows you to go gradually from easy to more difficult things. Dancing, gymnastics, acrobatics, juggling. Oh. I just saw Izzy_Dolphin breaks things, and she practices circus arts. Perhaps it's not so effective? :chin:


Yeah, I did gymnastics for 12 years and have been doing circus for 8 or 9 now... and am still just as clumsy as before. I find that if I'm paying strict attention to what I'm doing (when I'm doing circus or gymnastics), I'm much more coordinated. But it takes a lot of concentration. Often when I'm walking, I'm paying attention to other things or I'm lost in thoughts. Because of this I'm not paying attention to my surroundings and I don't see that little crack in the sidewalk, or that protruding tree branch. I have discovered that if I follow a line or walk on a curb I am much more coordinated, because I force myself to pay attention. Maybe just finding your trick like that will help with coordination.

I saw someone mention high heels... I've worn high heels twice in my life... the first time, I broke a toe and sprained my ankle. The second time was for prom, and I took them off and put on the socks that I had smuggled in my bag. (Prom was a horrible experience that my mother made me go to. Not only did I have to wear a dress, it was WAY later than my bedtime (between 10 and 11 pm), and there were over 500 people there and loud music and strobe lights. I hid in a back room. The number on the wristband that they gave me to show they had searched me and I had no alcohol was prime. It had 7 digits. I didn't have a calculator.) I generally wear flats when I have to wear fancy clothes. Flats go better with black dress pants anyway.


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08 Jun 2009, 12:15 pm

I broke so many expensive things as a child, including our only heirloom and my dad's glass stereo case. Nowadays, I seem to hurt myself slightly more than things. I very rarely wear skirts/dresses because I look like I've been fighting all of the time.

I'm also terrible at crossing roads because I can't judge how far away the cars are. I err on the side of safety and stand there for ages getting funny looks.

Oh to be lithe and delicate. :D



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08 Jun 2009, 1:22 pm

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Yep, I get the distance wrong -

I know it's not the same as coordination - I see it as a bonus on top of that! :lol:

I searched around a bit and found one study that asks what is going on. Here is the summary:
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Motor impairment has frequently been described in Asperger syndrome (AS), a pervasive developmental disorder included in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 4th Edition (DSM-IV). Previous research focusing on this motor dysfunction has yielded inconsistent results, and the "clumsiness" observed clinically remains poorly defined. To clarify further the issue of motor impairment, we compared a group of 10 children and young adults who met DSM-IV criteria for AS with a control group with no neurological impairment. Subjects were matched on age, sex, socioeconomic status, and Verbal IQ. A broad battery of motoric tests was administered. Subjects with AS were found to perform more poorly than controls on tests of apraxia, one-leg balance with eyes closed, tandem gait, and repetitive finger-thumb apposition. No significant differences were found on tests of finger tapping, grooved pegboard, trail making, or visual-motor integration. The pattern of impairments suggests that a proprioceptive deficit may underlie the incoordination observed in AS and that these individuals may be overreliant on visual input to maintain balance and position in space.

That is yet another thing I never thought of. These people say the trouble is not that the motor commands are wrong, it's that aspies are not so good at knowing where the limbs are.



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08 Jun 2009, 1:46 pm

I'm not sure I get this right, but it seems to be just the other way around with me - I mess up when I rely on what I see.

Let me explain: I sew by hand and I'm great with it and I usually do it while watching TV- I only have to check it once in a while to make sure I'm following my pattern. I can push multiple buttons on a game controller (simultaneously or in a predefined order) fast and accurate, but if I look at it I get confused.

As I said in my first post I've trained myself to be careful (I was disastrous as a child), but if I'm very tired or agitated I might end up placing my glass a bit more to the left or right than intended or bump it into something, although I'm watching it.


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08 Jun 2009, 1:50 pm

i dont break things by accident, im more prone to breaking things due to seeing the affect or out of anger, ill break glasses, tables, picture frames, anything you name it, use to do a lot when i was a child now more often due it when angry or upset. I'll still ocassionally break something to see it shattered basically to see the affect.


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08 Jun 2009, 3:13 pm

feel like a veteran at breaking things...similar way to Age.

Am smash things in 'incidents',and meltdowns,as well as through being hit in seizures and by accident due to not knowing own strength.
Have broken a lot of things ranging from walls,to laptops which am partly use to communicate with,beds,mirrors, CRT monitors,PC towers [decked front panels in on one,and wrote off another],windows,spinny chairs,floor standing fans,sensory equipment,parts on peoples cars,house doors [front door,back when they used to be all glass with a skinny wooden frame] and inside home doors etc.
Am used to break tables and chairs at school in incidents and meltdowns,but dad had to pay to replace them and would take it out on am as soon as got in the home.
The most precious things have broken were the laptops,and the PC that doesnt work anymore,not just because of what they were used for,but because they all had years worth of photos of pets that are no longer alive,and being an idiot had never backed them up,apart from a limited few had on a memory stick [but that got stolen along with psp this year].


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08 Jun 2009, 3:22 pm

I chose "once a year" because I'm very careful with breakables, but I'm clumsy in other ways - I keep bumping into people and things, dropping things, overturning things, losing my balance, etc.


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08 Jun 2009, 8:08 pm

Gromit wrote:
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I know, due to my clumsiness and poor motor coordination, I have probably broken thousands and thousands of dollars worth of stuff over my lifetime

If I remember correctly, both Chuck and Sedaka found that martial arts training improved their coordination. I am sure anything will work that needs coordination, that you enjoy enough to keep doing, and that allows you to go gradually from easy to more difficult things. Dancing, gymnastics, acrobatics, juggling. Oh. I just saw Izzy_Dolphin breaks things, and she practices circus arts. Perhaps it's not so effective? :chin:


Sadly no... I tried a lot of that stuff when I was a kid - one year of jazz and tap (total disaster) only managed to get through 4 months of gymnastics, and I've did choreography (dancing) with my choir for 11 years and never got better - in fact I was so bad I was always in the back row, and it kept holding me back from moving up the levels (you have to pass a dance audition as well as a singing audition). One dance audition I managed to hit the dancer next to me in the face, and trip on my own feet, all in the space of a 3 minute piece. The only reason I ever made it into the top level was because I had to miss the dance audition that year due to sickness, and they decided my singing was good enough and gave me a position. :)

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Can anyone relate to that horrible sinking feeling you get in your stomach when your elbow knocks over and smashes that priceless family heirloom that you were sure was at least 1m to your left hand side?

If it is really as much as 1m, I am not sure that is poor motor skills. Might be more to do with spatial awareness. To practice that you would do other things. Are you sitting down? Take a deep, calming breath. Team sports. That's what comes to mind. If I think of something else, I'll tell you. But now excuse me while I wash my mouth out with soap. Team sports! :eew:


I have problems with both spacial awareness and poor motor skills. And have weak muscle tone all over my body, apparently (I was diagnosed with all this by some specialist when I was 5, when my parents went to see them about my social problems and lack of coordination - I wasn't diagnosed with AS until several years later, I don't think most people realized it existed back then). Lol tried Team sports too, I used to play netball (and I was terrible, my reflexes were about 10 seconds slower than everyone elses, and I was just uncoordinated full stop). I also played tennis, and I wasn't great at it - but I was better at it. I've always been best at individual stuff like cross country running.

I do think it is possible all this dancing and random sports over the years has helped me some; while I am still bad, I am not nearly as awful as when I was younger and breaking things every single day (as well as the constant bruising).

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I have issues with judging or maybe I should say misjudging distance.

I don't think that is the same as coordination. You'd have a purely motoric problem if you knew where things are, but your motor commands are too variable. If you don't know where things are that means either you get the distance wrong or you quickly lose track.[/quote]

I have this problem, and I also have the thing mentioned about being unable to judge distance when I can't see something - like if it's too far in my peripheral vision - that's when I often run into things, if they're on my side and I'm not looking at them.

These days I do tend to bruise myself most often - and the toe thing too! I totally relate to that! I am constantly banging my toes, even when I am sitting in the dinner table. There are less breakables in the house - I broke most of them already years ago, and the ones I didn't break my parents put away for safe keeping. And we moved to a smaller house - less decorative items.

It also does get worse the more tired I am. When I get tired, that's when I start knocking more and more things over, and dropping things, and suchwhat.


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08 Jun 2009, 8:28 pm

I don't accidentally break things that often, I actually spend a lot of time fixing things so I can buy them at cheaper prices (who's gonna want a broken *********? "well, what's wrong with it?")

It's when something serves no purpose anymore, that's when there's no greater thrill than to take stuff out back and smash it on a rock, or blow it up, etc. Most electronic things are easily destroyed by hooking them up to an arc welder and slowly cranking up the output until said device starts smoking. Microwave ovens can be easily destroyed by putting a full beer can (from a skunky pack) in the microwave and setting it on high for 10 minutes. TVs don't function that well after recieving a shotgun blast, etc.



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08 Jun 2009, 8:34 pm

Sallamandrina wrote:
I'm not sure I get this right, but it seems to be just the other way around with me - I mess up when I rely on what I see.

Let me explain: I sew by hand and I'm great with it and I usually do it while watching TV- I only have to check it once in a while to make sure I'm following my pattern. I can push multiple buttons on a game controller (simultaneously or in a predefined order) fast and accurate, but if I look at it I get confused.

As I said in my first post I've trained myself to be careful (I was disastrous as a child), but if I'm very tired or agitated I might end up placing my glass a bit more to the left or right than intended or bump it into something, although I'm watching it.


That explains me entirely!! !

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08 Jun 2009, 11:24 pm

I would say once a year. Even though I'm a pretty big person it's surprising how seldom I break things. Every once in a while, well, accidents happen. I do bump into walls a lot, but not people.

I never break something intentionally, even when mad. I almost have a phobia of breaking anything and I always somewhat cringe at scenes in movies where a room gets trashed or an object gets broken. I am fairly defensive about my possessions because in my experience the average person has far less respect for other people's property than I do.

I used to be worse when I was young because I was clumsier then. Early in high school I had a growth spurt that got me noticed for the basketball team and I was pressured to join. I had no natural talent at basketball, when I started I was horrible at it, I couldn't even dribble and my shots were way off. One of the players always took me to the gym during lunch time to practice and lift weights, else I probably wouldn't have stayed at it. In a couple of months of practicing every day I developed a nice stroke on my shot and my footwork and dribbling was getting better. I became a starter on the team maybe only two months of practice. At about this point is when I stopped being clumsy. Though I know what most of you aspies think of team sports, if you give basketball enough of a try it might help with a lot, even if you just go alone to shoot free throws or 3s. I do that a lot, still.


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08 Jun 2009, 11:52 pm

cyberscan wrote:
I do both (break and fix).


I try to fix and then break more.



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09 Jun 2009, 12:37 am

Headphone wires, I'm always playing with them twisting them squeezing them and they are so thin they break. Oh and people, I've broken a few people. Got to love full contact sports.



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09 Jun 2009, 10:46 pm

I've learned to keep breakables far away from myself, and vice versa, so I don't break things very often anymore...but on the other hand, I knock stuff over probably an average of once-a-day, so I went with "once a month'.


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