I can't take criticism of any kind.

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I've learned to take criticism from familiar AND/OR thoughtful people, who sometimes can yield quite the negative criticism. I'm often able to give the impression of a "we agree to disagree" sentiment to seek consensus.

Even though I've learned to avoid the drama king, and queen personalities, I can sometimes find criticism stemming from "emotions getting in the way" unsettling - even when it comes from thoughtful people.

One debate strategy I apply here is to respond by mentioning something like, "it's so irritating to see such a smart, reasonable, caring person let their "feelings get in the way" on such [insert specific (important) topics/concerns here which tend to spark debates]!" Another strategy is to sense that negative criticism, and well............"hard feelings" can often be two verrry different things!

More or less informally, I often reclaim an impression of consensus; that is the very consensus which is often in both our best interests! Most often, I sense indifference, and find it best to end debating.

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* Correction to above paragraph: More or less informally, I leave an impression of consensus; that is the very consensus which is often in both our best interests! Most often, I sense indifference in the perspectives of the other person(s), and hence that tacit understanding to end debating.

* Another related piece of wisdom, "we have to be our own harshest critic."

Yes, "I feel that both my debate skills, and acceptance of criticism alike needs a boost!"

I have a tremendous problem with any sort of criticism. Any kind of hint or correction and I fly into a spiral of self doubt and self hatred. Even on the internet when I'm corrected I just feel like deleting the whole account and calling it quits. I have actually done this before. I think it's harder on the web because I can't sense any kind of tone or point to a statement. Occasionally in real life I can calm down and listen but most of the time I just fly into a depressed state or else explode. My Wife, Mother and Father are the only ones I can even consider listening to or accepting what they have to say. But even that's not always true. I don't quite know what I'm looking for through this post but I "just wanted to share".

As an NT learning how to communicate, if I say something that comes across as criticism, how can I quickly amend the situation to get out of potential anger or hurt? Is it a matter of apologizing and clarification?