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11 Jun 2009, 10:27 am

OK so I'm talking with this girl since saturday and things are going pretty well. Got her MSN, phone number, we talk like hours per day through texting or MSN. Not really face to face though. Some conversations are deep, others aren't :P. Anyway I went to see her at work with a friend of mine who has known her for a few years now. We had a short conversation but in this conversation she was mainly focused on / looking at him.

It was kind of akward and I couldn't help feeling a bit left out. So what's your opinion on why she only looked at him? I was thinking maybe she still likes him but I don't think that's the case because she seems a bit fragile. I could sense she had been hurt because of various things in the past (like she's very insecure about how small she is because boys didn't like her because of that even though she didn't tell me) but she even tries to find a nice girl for him.

Personally I think it's just because on a digital level we did connect but because I haven't really talked to her face to face she still needs to make the connection of the digital me and the real me. I must admit I was kinda shy when I talked to her face to face as well :oops: . Much more than when I was texting her (A).

So yea, what do you guys think?? :P



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11 Jun 2009, 10:33 am

She might have been nervous and it was easier to make eye contact with the other guy. I've done that myself, actually. :oops: If she's opening up to you via texting and such, I wouldn't worry too much about it. Sounds like she trusts you, but is shy. Just keep patiently winning her over. :D


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11 Jun 2009, 11:25 am

I was hoping it would be something like that. It's just an akward situation. I need to see her more instead of just texting and stuff but she's hard to reach face to face xD



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12 Jun 2009, 12:19 am

I know it's hard but ask her if she's romantically interested. You don't have to make a big deal about it. Be casual. If he is ask her if she wants to do something in RL. If she says no tell her it's no big deal, you just wanted to know and you're still friends. She will understand and will probably be grateful no matter what she says. It's better than remaining in love limbo until she hooks up with some creep who stops her from talking to you.


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12 Jun 2009, 1:06 am

Had a deep conversation with her last night. She asked how long I think it takes for people to be able to really like each other, if I could like someone just because of the way she looks, what I think about boys who just kiss some girl they have just met without having any feelings for her and if I would ever kiss some girl I don't have feelings for if I'm half drunk (hardest question of them all xD)



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12 Jun 2009, 1:18 am

Hmmm...sounds like she's been burned. Just reassure her you would never do those things to a girl, especially not a girl you respect and care for. Then let her know that you respect and care for her.

She is feeling you out, so to speak. I think she is skittish but seemingly wants to trust you. Be as honest as you can. (yeah, like who wouldn't kiss someone when half drunk) :wink:


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12 Jun 2009, 2:20 am

She did tell me boys usually didn't like her because of her height (she's small) and I told her that they were crazy to judge her on that. Also that there must be people who respect each other some where. idk if that's reassuring or not xD



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12 Jun 2009, 5:05 am

as usual, if you like her, the advice would be: act fast

NT's "click" and the next minute theyre making out, and none of us understand how the hell they do it.

just dont end up analyzing her up and down 5 months from now, cus by then she will regard you as nothing but "a good friend" at best.


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12 Jun 2009, 1:36 pm

ZEGH8578 wrote:
as usual, if you like her, the advice would be: act fast

NT's "click" and the next minute theyre making out, and none of us understand how the hell they do it.

just dont end up analyzing her up and down 5 months from now, cus by then she will regard you as nothing but "a good friend" at best.


Everything he said. I cannot emphasize this enough.


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