Who else feels alone?

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I am the only high functioning Aspie I know. The only Autistic people I know are very low functioning. In fact this guy at work who is low functioning is one of the few people I really feel connected to at work. Whenever I seem to meet someone with Aspergers they are nearly always lower functioning than I am. Anybody else have this problem? I really am not trying to say I'm better than anybody for being high functioning. It just makes me feel alone when I know a lot of NT's and then I know a few Autistic people that are low functioning and cant really understand how I feel. I hope someone understands what I'm saying.

Oddly enough, I do. But then again, we aspies are not known for ability to understand another person as we do ourselves, which often leads to misjudgments. But I understand and empathize (our) problem....

I sort of understand, but from another perspective. I was lower functioning than those in the AS group I once attended. It made me feel very isolated and upset, so I didn't return.

Define 'low functioning Aspie' please.

same I hae a high IQ and quite logical mnd but everyone around me always jst jokes around andacts stupid and drinks I don' understand wh do they just wish to waste ter life I decided to fuel it by wrotong as I feel out of touch from humans sounds bizzarre I know butI see all these idiots in the news and politics and everytig and now how to solve things and I am just surprised they have not figured it out yet. The only people I can truly connect with are high fuctioning aspies and high IQ people but i I eet one that is?not met one yet

Regarding functioning: There's no absolute demarcation, and there are several domains of functioning that some do worse in than others.
Many factors determine functioning, and measures of functioning include independent living, employment, social interaction/relationships, education, and co-morbid conditions, for example. In the situation I mentioned, I was referring to social functioning and relationships. Nearly all the individuals could interact and participate in unstructured group discussions; the two who could not still displayed interest by smiling and attending to the discussion. I was unable to participate, follow most of the discussion, speak (not even to answer what my name was), or lift my head up for more than a few seconds at a time. Many mentioned having friends.

What is "functioning" ?

Do I like groups and parties and sport? No I do not.

A lot of people here seem to think that NT's are a superior breed who know the meaning of life.

Nothing could be further from the truth. Half of them are thick as bricks and most of them are brainwashed into "group think" and a rigid pecking order.

I have the same problem. I live in a group home and used to attend a day program which is part of an autism agency. I am the only client with Asperger's. The other clients have autism with mental retardation. It is very difficult for me to be friends with them because they are low functioning compared to me. When I say low functioning it means on a mental,social,emotional, and all levels. The clients in my program also have co-morbid behavioral and/or psychiatric disorders,as well as autism and mental retardation. They are not interested in conversations,hanging out nor are they interested in doing the things that I want to do. I tried so hard to be with them, but every time we do something, they would have an acting out behavior because they rather be alone and/or not have the abilities to do the activities that I enjoy. Also, I love to talk about my medical interest and things that the other clients do not understand or have difficulty following, so they in turn get frustrated at me and physically attack me. Plus, there are only 5 or 6 girls in that whole entire program, and most of them are extremely low functioning and have severely limited communication skills. There is only 1 other higher functioning girl, who has autism with mild mental retardation, but she is very difficult to get along with because she has severe mood issues and is extremely difficult behavior wise to be around.
The only socializing I get is with the staff, but the program does not allow friendships with any staff, even though I do better with friendships with NT's. So I am extremely alone and have nobody.

Yes, I know what you mean. I am classed as "High Functioning". I don't know how to explain the term without getting into trouble here, but the upshot is NTs don't see that I'm having any difficulties, deny that I'm on the spectrum (or I'm too afraid to disclose) and are bewildered when I'm unable to cope with things they take for granted. It's very isolating.

I had a hard time finding this site, lots of the forums were for the parents and carers of Autistic children and so of little use for me.