butting in-conversations and social situations

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It is still that way for me, too.

I do that alot. I've also been really trying to focus on not interrupting people, but it only works about 10% of the time.

I am exactly the same way!!

Most of the time I just stay quiet...occasionally I'd butt into a conversation that is really none of my business to begin with...people just look at me weird..and then ignore me lol

Once, I was at work, and I jumped into a conversation that was taking place a few feet away from my desk. One woman turned to me, and said, "Why are you in this conversation?" I was sooo embarrassed, that I wanted to crawl under my desk and hide...

Conversations never did come naturally to me. I have often made the mistake of thinking that a person had finished making his or her point in a discussion and then, thinking it was my turn, made my point only to be corrected for interrupting. Lately I've been trying to focus on conversations more as a listener than a talker, basically expressing my views when they are asked for.

Sometimes, though, I still manage to find ways to unintentionally interrupt people. For instance, if I have to ask a store employee where a certain item is located, I still find myself walking up to the employee, asking the question, and then realizing a second later that I had just interrupted the conversation that the employee was having with another customer.

Wow!! ! Me too!! !! My family will be talking about something I mention another topic and they are like what are you talking about (I assumed we were onto a new topic LOL!) I also jump into conversation "Oh so you like Mario what other games do you like" and I get a weird stare LOL!

It'd embarrassing. I never know when is and when is not appropriate to interrupt or join into a conversation.

Same problem here. I almost always interrupt conversations between other parents at my daughter's soccer games, and at my kids' schools. The more insecure I am about myself with certain people, the worse I am at judging when I should say something. After I say something--even hours later--I'm replaying the stupid conversation in my head, trying to figure out what I should have said.

Plus, I'm pretty sure I make a geeky face when I talk. I was clueless about this until I was at a baby shower several years ago that someone filmed with their home movie camera, and they replayed it. Extremely embarassing.

Notice how people end up interrupting you to correct you for interrupting? My civilian supervisor in the military though had an art. When I'd inadvertantly interrupt him, he would make a big deal with shutting his mouth and turning his head away as if he was silently protesting the interruption and refusing to listen to what I have to say until I listen to what he had to say. It was the most

Cell phones I'm the worse on because they often have a 3 second delay. So when I hear silence, I start talking, but by then, the other person was talking again too.

I also like to butt into other people's conversations. I can't help it. Like I'll stand in the check out lane and due to my heightened Aspie senses, I hear other people's conversations even when I'm trying so hard to ignore it, and sometimes they make me laugh or will say something I have something I really want to say, and sometimes i correct when they are wrong, like that place closed down, and I'll say no it just moved down the street. I figure if people want to have a private conversation, then they should have that conversation in private. I will tell them that if they seem to have a problem with me putting in my 2 cents. Most of the time, they think it's a little weird, but they like it or just don't really mind it so much. Only on very few occasions do I get really dirty looks or something bad said to me, but if they got something bad to say too, so do I. I get more dirty looks for having conversations with my friends in public that other people think should be in private (like complaining about our men for a minute or something).

I also noticed people rarely say, "What's your opinion?" I ask for other people's input and say, "What do you think" often, but most of the time, I'm the only person doing that. Sometimes you have to interrupt to get a word in edgewise. It's funny because we are the ones who supposedly monologue.

I gave up trying to be well timed in conversations years ago. I don't talk unless it's unavoidable. The only person I talk to a lot is my one true friend. I hold everything inside until the next time i see her then explode with interesting things to say. I'll just verbally vomit out my week's experiences for like an hour.

I actually don't talk at all some days and just type on this site for hours. just talking to my computer i guess

My god, that's EXACTLY my problem. It's like you stole the words right from my mind! I once had a teacher who always told me when I'd interrupted him. He was usually a nice guy, and I liked the fact that he was a sci-fi nerd like me, but he had an exceptionally irritating way of telling me off where he'd grin and use a cheerful tone of voice while telling me I could get in trouble if I persisted in what I was doing. I always find rudeness even more irritating if it's accompanied with cheerfulness, just like being picked on makes me angrier if the person doing it seems to find it funny. I don't know why. (Then again, rudeness makes me angrier still if it's angrily shouted rudeness.)

I also have this problem.
I'll quite often join in a conversation and have someone say to me, "I wasn't talking to you!".

Also with general interrupting, I often get accused of that too but I don't understand why because I'm doing exactly what everyone else is doing, adding themselves to a conversation! When I think someone has finished talking I say what I want to say, only to be told to wait my turn, but I don't know when that is.

My husband does this to me all the time. Makes me furious.

Its pretty embarrassing being talked down to like a grade 1 kid in a high school for "interrupting" by a teacher


I avoid that in college by not talking to anyone much and only talking to the instructors when they are in their office.

If you can't tell that you're interrupting,

You're definitely AS ! !! !

Last night was having dinner with some friends and this one person would talk so much and so fast. I was lost, but I kept noticing I didn't want to interrupt. So much for my statement before.
But bloody hell that girl could sure talk.
What I do in group conversations in say a comment to one person that stops listening to the person talking and try and strike up my own conversation with them.