How to Take a Joke

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need more of those

where would I be without flow charts and schematics?

probably not analysing every damn thing, turning into a neurotic

Interesting... a bit tongue in cheek, so not completely accurate.

Oh, wait a second... was it meant as a joke?!

On the subject of jokes, I don't always get aspie jokes. And I often wonder if the joke is privately understood only by the aspie, or (and more worrying) if the joke is on me. Either way, I often find my aspie hubby's jokes to be offensive or just plain incomprehensible, and when I try to get him to explain, he just can't put his finger on what the funny part was. Unfortunately, for me, a joke is only enjoyable if I can share the funniness of it with others. I mean, I have tons of stuff that's only funny to me, but, since it comes from my personal experience in the world, it's not something anyone else could appreciate, so sharing it wouldn't be enjoyable for me or my listener. And aren't private jokes that hurt or disturb others actually more akin to teasing and/or bullying? I don't like to be teased. And I seriously don't like to feel emotionally unsafe with my husband.

I don't know. It's all so hard to wrap my brain and heart around sometimes...

Brilliant diagram, thanks for bringing it on AnnaBanana!

And Im one of those boring aspies who get all the way to the "you're wrong" bar....with the addition that I dont THINK the person was trying to offend me but I emotionally interepret it as such even if I know it by common sense thats not the case. But the damage is already done to me, so.....Im wrong but I dont mind because I dont want to go to parties

Haha! I just made a folder in my bookmarks for my favorite WP threads. I'm fairly good with sarcasm, but the chart is great. My favorite part is: Do they get invited to more parties than you do? --> No --> Big talk for a guy reading a flow chart on the internet.

^ holy s**t, was that sarcasm??! !!

now Im feeling stupid but I know I of the kind of aspies who dont understand sarcasm

*hiding*

It seems like the harder you try to stay out of the punchline, the more people want to get you with one. The more I enjoy the punchline I'm in, the less funny it gets, I guess at some point I should stop trying.

Thank you for sharing that flowchart. I think it encourages me to get on with life even though people joke and lie about things which I don't find funny...

Well let's try it out, if this chart was a joke then....hmmm

Oh right...


lol


I did it right....right?

Great flow chart, but I don't think I can go through that every time someone tells a joke.
I'll just look around and see if anyone else is laughing. If they are, I'll laugh as as well and if they're not, then I wont. The chart is right though, I need to seriously get on with my life otherwise I'm going to drive myself mad trying to work out the dynamics of conversation.

Great flowchart.

I just usually laugh nervously or actually comment on it and end up embarrassing myself.

lol at the chart

Interesting... a bit tongue in cheek, so not completely accurate.

Oh, wait a second... was it meant as a joke?!

On the subject of jokes, I don't always get aspie jokes. And I often wonder if the joke is privately understood only by the aspie, or (and more worrying) if the joke is on me. Either way, I often find my aspie hubby's jokes to be offensive or just plain incomprehensible, and when I try to get him to explain, he just can't put his finger on what the funny part was. Unfortunately, for me, a joke is only enjoyable if I can share the funniness of it with others. I mean, I have tons of stuff that's only funny to me, but, since it comes from my personal experience in the world, it's not something anyone else could appreciate, so sharing it wouldn't be enjoyable for me or my listener. And aren't private jokes that hurt or disturb others actually more akin to teasing and/or bullying? I don't like to be teased. And I seriously don't like to feel emotionally unsafe with my husband.

I don't know. It's all so hard to wrap my brain and heart around sometimes...

Never get the physical jokes of punching, acting like you want to fight, shaking hands too long, etc... Allways think they want to confuse me intentionally and end up feeling insulted.

On the other hand:
I once told my mother I wanted euthanesia for my birthday. I thought it was a funny joke, but she told me afterwards she got really worried about me. Made me feel ashamed.